Who is She?

This is me. 29 years old. This is my dog, Atlas. He’s been my walking partner since I rescued him from Georgia almost three years ago. January 2020, I decided to take a”Life Sabbatical” from my work as a Victim’s Services Specialist. I had been advocating for victims of Hampton Roads for the past five years. I mainly worked with victims of crime in the courthouse through the Commonwelath’s Attorney’s office. And by crime, I mean all crime: Rape, homicide, burglary, assault by mob, shoplifting, and the list goes on for as many criminal laws that exist in the books.

My “Life Sabbatical” was spurred by the desire to refocus on my health and set forth toward my goals. Both my parents died of cancer within the past three years. Day by day, I have been learning to cope through each of my stages of grief. Walking Atlas has been an ebb and a flow. There have been many days that I was too tired, sad, lonely, you name it to take him around the block. However, the most important lesson through my journey thus far has been to keep going. Rest when necessary. But always keep hope. Tomorrow is another day. Sometimes that means doing one thing a day, sometimes that means doing the one thing you’ve been procrastinating for months, sometimes that means putting yourself first and resting some more. Bottom line. Stay positive and keep going.

This was the beginning of my background which led me to the decision to continue my work as a victim’s advocate in a new light. May my knowledge of trauma-informed care lead to the healing of others and may I continue to find peace and happiness along my journey.

Here I am, 30 old years old

I am now, a Mother of a child.

My hopes of opening a trauma informed business temporarily halted because Motherhood redirected my entire life.

Motherhood changed me entirely, from the inside out. It literally opened my pelvic bones and they never returned to their original size.

The truama my pregnancy and first months into motherhood, have drastically impacted my desires to advocate for victims of abuse.

While I don’t have the “sunshine and rainbows” attitude all the time, I do see the power within myself to keep going and hoping everyday for the best day yet.

Now, in 2022, I am 32 years old.

I am a Co-Owner of a holistic, trauma informed business, QueensBees’ Apothecary LLC. My best friend and I have joined forces in Motherhood and in business. We each value herbal wellness and exploring our spiritual nature.

It’s taken me a lot of self-reflection to get to this place.

A lot of shadow work.

A lot of questioning.

A lot of anger boiling inside from years of shame and judgement.

A lot of learning how to set boundaries.

A lot of time reflecting on myself.

It’s hard to dig yourself out of a mental block.

I know. I’ve been there. Part of me is learning to love those unloved parts of myself.

I’m constantly breaking down walls of patriarchal conditioning.

My identity no longer tied to my physical body.

Rather, my identity is deep within me.

The soul of my essence has nothing to do with my physical body. The value of my life is inherently worthy, regardless of my outer appearances. (And so is yours!)

Building my self -esteem from the inside out has been a challenge I wasn’t anticipating on this joruney. Yet, I am grateful for the realization that my I am worthy, regardless of my appearance or output.

My energetic being is worthy of love and so is yours 🤍🖤💛

Cheers to becoming my best self.

2023 - May you be the best year yet ✨