What Your Mail Order Bride Expects From You

Everyone has expectations, especially in relationships. Having a mail order bride doesn’t escape you from this either. If you truly plan on spending the rest of your life with her, you should know what she wants out of you and what you should expect during the relationship.

Remember, as long as you approach everything sincerely and the right way, things can turn out very well for the both of you.

We’re doing this bare bones style.

Her expectations

Some of these are probably factors you’re already aware of. Regardless, here they are:

1. Financial Stability

It’s two fancy words that basically translate to money. Most of these women in mail order bride sites are indeed in need of money since they come from developing countries. Some of the more unfortunate ones do whatever it takes to get out of that when all other options have been depleted. In their desperation, they turn to marriage for money.

And they can get this from men who hail from European or North American countries.

Many of them have this perceived notion that any white man can save them from poverty and will sweep them off their feet in the name of love. They may want financial stability first, but they are also very hopeful in terms of romance.

You need to understand that this need for money doesn’t necessarily come from greed. Sure, there are some out there who are in for it for selfish reasons, but the others are driven by practicality.

After all, how else will she know she and her future children will be well-taken care of if her husband can’t take care of them financially?

She will also need your support for the family that she grew up with. They are heavily dependent on their families, since most of these mail order brides come from countries that value family the most. She will make sure they are taken care of before she starts one with you.

2. Your maturity and experience

In many cases, you will be way older than she is. Some younger women, contrary to popular belief, actually prefer older guys over males their own age. It stems from the fact that most women are sick of the immaturity that comes from these men compared to how an older guy would react to situations.

As long as both of you are consenting adults, you should be able to work things out.

There are qualities your bride likes about you, such as your life experiences that she could learn from, your maturity and ability to stay calm in situations and how you aren’t as unpredictable as the men her age.

Another thing that you should be aware of is that they appreciate an older man’s level of understanding. Men in their forties and fifties are more understanding than men in their twenties and thirties.

Mature men don't argue about insignificant issues or make a big deal out of them. Rather than playing the blame game, older men are more patient and strive to find the source of the problem and resolve it.

Your ability to resolve conflict ought to be exceptional too. She is going to rely on that, especially your ability to maintain composure during upsetting situations. She will lean on you, rely on you and look to you for answers and decisions so you should know how to take the lead in these moments.

3. Your drive

Younger men are less likely to think and plan about their life goals than those in their forties and fifties. You won’t catch an older man saying “I just want to get paid playing video games” if asked about their goals.

No. A man with ambition would go much further in life than a man who relies on his trust fund. No one would ever dream of dating a lazy bum. If they do, they are either bought off by their other redeeming qualities or love has made them blind.

Most women looking for a husband adore a man who takes things seriously. Their own drive and determination for long-term goals make them appear more husband-material. It reassures them they will be well-taken care of because the man they are going to marry isn’t fooling around.

4. You -- Just you

The heart wants what the heart wants. A woman in love won’t care about anything else as long as she gets to be with you. The other expectations she will come after she realizes that she loves you. You don’t need to be someone you’re not just to impress her and you don’t need to go over-the-top just to make her love you.

If she fell for you, then just be you. Be there for her. Comfort her. Make her smile.

You two are going to be spending the rest of your days with each other so make sure to keep each other happy.

Things you need to think about before you marry her

This woman you plan to marry is someone from overseas. What you knew before about planning everything will be different simply because of that fact.

If you’ve taken the factors above into account and are sure about truly tying the knot with this foreign woman, then go ahead and propose. After the proposal, comes the planning. But in-between the planning, there are the legalities that you ought to settle first. Because there is no wedding if you don’t.

• The citizenship process

Be diligent throughout this process: improper disclosure and inaccuracies may lead to citizenship being delayed or denied. So consult with a legal expert as soon as possible.

• Get a K-1 visa

If your significant other resides outside of the United States and the wedding will take place in the country of her residence, you'll need to take certain steps to ensure proper visas are in place. A visa is proof of a government's approval for a foreign citizen to enter the United States.

• Apply for Resident Status

Apply to change your spouse's status to permanent resident status, generally known as a "green card." A green card allows someone to live and work permanently in the United States.

• The United States naturalization process

In order for a permanent to become a full-fledged US citizen, they will need to undergo a naturalization process. In order to meet the criteria, they will need:

1. To have understood civics
2. To be 18 years old or above
3. To be able to read, write and speak English
4. To have a green card for at least 3 years
5. To be married and “live in marital union” with a U.S. citizen for three years before applying and up until examination of the application.
6. To live in the state where you filed the application for at least three months before applying.
7. To have lived in the United States for at least 18 months in the previous three years prior to applying, and have remained in the country continuously from the time of application until citizenship.

Maintaining the relationship

It won’t be easy for two people who were raised a sea away from each other to come to a compromise. But, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

Remember that old saying? “If there’s a will, there’s a way”

If you truly want to make your relationship work, you put effort into keeping it happy and healthy. Of course, it won’t work not unless you and your partner are in it together.

Your journey might be a steep one, but once you reach the top, you’ll see exactly why it’s worth it.