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What makes us fall in love?

The love hormone

By jeffrey kircherPublished 11 months ago 3 min read
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What makes us fall in love?
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Unraveling the Science of Love: From Brain Chemistry to Lasting Connections

Love, a timeless topic explored in numerous songs and stories, has often been associated with matters of the heart. However, it may surprise you to learn that love's essence lies in the brain rather than the heart. Join me as we delve into the science behind this enthralling emotion, which inspires songs, masterpieces, and the most extraordinary actions.

Imagine your body as a sophisticated factory, where various hormones and brain systems work in harmony when you embark on a new relationship. During the initial stage of love, known as infatuation or passionate love, your brain's ventral tegmental area (VTA) becomes incredibly active. This region, responsible for reward processing and motivation, releases happiness hormones like dopamine, evoking intense feelings of energy and euphoria. No wonder you can't get enough of your partner during this phase, much like a puppy seeking treats.

Interestingly, the heightened dopamine levels can lead to decreased appetite and insomnia, reminiscent of over-the-top romance novels. Moreover, love seems to blind you to your partner's faults, as it suppresses the brain's cognitive center, which fuels critical thought and judgment.

Acting on the pleasure center of the brain, love enhances your sense of joy and optimism, making you appreciate the world around you even more. The initial whirlwind of emotions and mental activity may last only a few months before transitioning into a more profound and enduring stage called attachment or compassionate love.

In this stage, pair bonding hormones, vasopressin, and oxytocin, often referred to as the cuddle hormones, play a significant role. They foster feelings of attachment, social support, and trust, which are essential in developing a deeper connection with your partner. As the attachment phase sets in, the rose-colored glasses of infatuation give way to a more realistic view, allowing you to see your partner's imperfections.

Sometimes, challenges arise in relationships during this phase. However, the attachment hormones also help bond families and friendships. Oxytocin, in particular, contributes to stress reduction, making you feel more relaxed when in the company of your loved one.

If a relationship ends, whether mutually or painfully, the brain is responsible for the subsequent heartbreak. The insular cortex, responsible for processing various types of pain, is activated during this time, causing distress similar to physical pain. Surprisingly, even after a breakup, the reward center (VTA) still remains active when looking at photos of your ex, driving the urge to reconnect.

Fortunately, time and support from loved ones can help ease the pain of heartbreak. Engaging in activities you enjoy and spending time with friends trigger the release of dopamine, the feel-good hormone, calming the stress response.

While love's biological aspect is captivating, there is a psychological element as well. Psychologist Arthur Aaron devised 36 questions designed to facilitate intimacy and possibly expedite falling in love. These questions encourage vulnerability and openness, key ingredients in deepening connections between potential partners.

So, love may indeed be an open door, but it's one that leads directly to the brain's intricate chemistry and intricate psychological processes, making it a phenomenon worth cherishing and exploring.

Love can be a transformative force, bringing joy, connection, and emotional fulfillment. It fosters compassion, understanding, and support, enriching lives and promoting personal growth. However, love's intensity can lead to vulnerability, heartbreak, and dependence. It can cloud judgment, causing one to overlook flaws or endure harmful relationships. Unrequited love can lead to pain and disappointment. Despite its complexities, love's positive impact on mental well-being and happiness makes it a vital aspect of human existence, albeit one that requires careful navigation to avoid potential pitfalls.

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About the Creator

jeffrey kircher

I'm Jeffrey, passionate about knowledge, truth, and love. Exploring facts and embracing honesty drives me. Love connects souls and inspires change. On a journey of self-discovery, spreading positivity and leaving a lasting impact.

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