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What are the small responsibilities that will make your relatives and family happy and peaceful

Tips for Building a Healthy Relationship.

By Santanu GhoshPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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What are the small responsibilities that will make your relatives and family happy and peaceful

It is said "Charity begins at home"

This is a very important sentence we have heard since childhood. But do we really know the real importance of it! Or though we know we don't apply it in real life! Almost all of us perform our duties responsibly. The earning members of the family earns money by working hard every day, the children study at home, one member of family cooks food, someone does other household chores. These have become a routine in our normal daily life. This is followed by occasional outings for fun, going to the park, eating out at restaurants, or attending various events, there is shopping as much as possible. After all, why is there so much unrest and so much relationship conflict at home? Why are thousands of families breaking up even after a long family life? Though the number is very low as a percentage, because most of the family person have accepted the turmoil in their worldly life as a part of their survival. In other words, they are living with this deep belief and hope that they will spend the rest of life with depending on the weed pole.

If you really want to make your home environment healthier, to make your relationship sweeter, then you need to be prepared to take some responsibilities, small responsibility.

You see, the bitterness in both family and relationships starts from very small incidents. Gradually it gets to a point where they can't stand each other, they get angry when they see each other. Its effects are reflected in all aspects of life, career, worldly life, socially, severely disrupted our mindset. Many parents, falling in this trap forget important responsibilities upon their wards.

Think deeply about how much trauma can be inflicted on your children when a husband and wife quarrel at home or when there is unrest in the family. The tender heart of the child gradually breaks down, and as the child grows, he/she is attracted to the thrill of the outside world to escape the turmoil of the family. They become addicted to drugs in order to get rid of those traumatic events,They try to spend more time outside the home environment by chatting or with the help of electronics-gadgets.

Where does this problem start?

Thinking of self 'omniscient': ‘I am the wisest of all and I understand everything’ is a very effective virus. Which, of course, makes the basic structure of any family or relationship sick. People who have this kind of mentality do not want to be noticed by others so that other members of the family feel insequred. Although they endured everything at first, when got his back against the wall, they became defendant and the unrest in the family started, the bitterness of the relationship increases.

Forcing a decision on others: Each of us is bound to have different choices, tastes, moods and these are our unique identities, makes different one from the other. Most people understand its importance and ignore it. We try to force our choice on others. What I like may not be liked by others, be it food, clothing or conversation. But we continue to try to force our love on others. For example, if you like to eat bread and vegetables, you try to force feed your favorite food to your child. He may not like this food. Have you ever thought or seen?

Not giving importance to others: Everyone has a certain importance about family or in a relationship. You earn more, you work harder or you contribute more, it doesn't mean you ignore the rest, and try to keep everyone down. Doing so will cause others to underestimate themselves, get hurt, and gradually move away from you. Pets can be tied up by force, people can never be tied up by force. One day or another the fire of his mind will burn, the gunpowder will explode, just waiting for the time.

To criticize: The importance of discussion and vilification in building a person properly is immeasurable, it cannot be denied in any way. But it is also good and constructive as long as you do it in the right person and in the right place. Can it ever be constructive if you criticize your relative, wife, children, husband or parents in front of an outsider? You can't imagine how much hurts your loved ones by this kind of your behavior. Outsiders will only give you military comfort and make your mind more envenomed. As soon as you move away from them, they will rejoice in it, taking unfair advantage of your weakness. You can't respect your loved ones for any reason but you have no right to insult them.

Everybody, from the educated to the uneducated, knows that if they spit upwards, it will fall on them, but what a wonder educated people do repeat that mistake again and again. A good number of people think that it is their achievement to criticize and slander others and continue to do it as planned. All these people deeply believe that 'I can't go up unless I can bring others down'. They have programmed their minds in this way so it doesn't matter who is nearer or who is outsiders.

Try to accept people as they are:- It is one of the greatest virtues of man. Some people like to eat, some people like to sleep a little more, some people like to wear fancy clothes and makeup. Openly consider these as one of their qualities. Don't try to force your choice of dress, choice of food or your decision on others. This increases the stubbornness of the person on the opposite side. It is better to love him, point out the good aspects of your choice that are well understood and he will surely understand the importance. Neither of us 100% perfect nor you are. So if someone repeatedly scolds you for your mistake, you will definitely not feel good, you will also feel annoyed. Better yet, accept the small mistakes, you will see the beautiful effect of this on your family, relationships.

Today, on this valentine's day, my writing will show a new direction in your life. Not a special day for love, make life special. Wherever you are, the people you have been with for a long time, the people you dream of, fill them with love, that light will spread all around. Relationships bonding, family bonding can never be tied with a rope, this bond of love, mind, make it strong, live a wonderful life without worries.

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Santanu Ghosh

I am life success coach and Relationship counselor, Neuro Linguistic Programming Expert

My mission is to help you to come out any challenges and create success in each and every areas of life.Welcome to the Program your Mind

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