Ways To Cope When Your Partners Love Language Is Different

Have you found yourself not fully understanding and communicating well with your partner.

You might wonder what’s wrong with the two of you, and you might feel confused. but when this kind of disconnection happens between partners, you aren’t speaking the same love language.

Improve Your Relationship One Language At A Time

Understanding your significant others love language is pretty much a powerful yet effective love guidance tool.

The truth is, most couples do have different love languages—and that's perfectly okay. The idea is that by understanding your love languages, you can learn and understand each other better.

Learn to speak your partners love language

Do you speak a different love language than your partner? It's far more important to understand the love language your significant other speaks.

Everyone has a love language, they are

• Words of Affirmation: you like to hear a lot of acknowledgement. Hearing statements of appraisal would probably make you really happy.
• Acts of Service: you feel really cared for when your partner knows you've had a long night and wakes up extra early to get your favorite Starbucks for you to take to work.
• Receiving/Giving Gifts: there's nothing you love more than giving well thought out 'just because' gifts and spoiling those you love on special occasions.
• Quality Time: as simple as 30 minutes of eye-contact, highly engaged, 'no distraction' time together, this makes you feel completely adored when you have their undivided attention.
• Physical Touch: Not indefinitely sex. But regular, everyday gestures of affection. It's a foot massage while watching tv, having your back gently rubbed before you fall asleep or a snuggling on the couch watching a movie.

Let's be clear, people do not necessarily need to speak the same love language to succeed in a relationship.

For many people, we often aren't taught or privy to know effective ways of expressing love to our partners or dealing with disagreements and/or quarrels.

What is important to them is different from what is important to you and being able to separate your needs and wants from theirs is beneficial in more ways than one!

You can ask yourself what it is about your partner that makes you fall in love with them, why are you with them, and what reasons got you into this relationship.

The Best Part Of Discovering Your Specific Love Language

The more you are able to understand the different ways people show love, the more likely you are to notice those gestures and feel loved. As you start to give and receive love in a way that's more personalized, it creates an even deeper connection between you and your significant other.

Let's say for instance, if their love language is physical touch and they constantly need kisses, cuddling, and hugging, how will that work out for you? Will you be annoyed, comply with their wants or will you on the same page with their desires?

Ways To Cope With Having A Different Love Language

Learn to compromise. No one's thoughts or feelings should be superior over the other. Both parties are equal and on the same team!

Acknowledge that you both grew up differently and were raised in different households therefore you grew up with different values.

Know That Not Every Couple Speaks The Same Love Language.

Establish what "your" Love language is. Take time and get to know yourself before you get serious with someone or anyone for that matter!

Communicate what it is that you "need" to feel loved. You have a role too. You don't want to read their mind so don't make them read yours!

Know That You Don't Have To Speak The Same Love Language To Have A Successful Relationship.

Things To Keep In Mind in Relationships

Make certain that you give your partner what they want, not just what you would like to get. The thing to remember is that we all typically give love in the same way we like to receive it, and this is where things can get tricky. When you recognize that your partner is demonstrating their love language for you, try and appreciate the meaning conveyed in their expressions, gestures, presence, touch, words, or gifts.