Trusting Again After Being Hurt
It is okay to allow your heart to heal and love again.
First, I am so sorry that it has been almost a week since my last post but life has been so crazy and stressful in the last week or two. I honestly had no motivation or creativity to write and felt a little depressed. Here I am, though, back to writing with tons of creativity and longings in my heart for so much more. This topic is so personal to me because if you know anything about me, you know a lot about my horrible past with relationships and friendships. You know how much I have been hurt and also, how much I have allowed myself to go numb to that hurt and bottle it as well as stuffing it under a rug—not anymore, though. I am allowing myself to open the wounds, heal for good, and love again.
Sometimes in life you have to let the hurt and pain resurface to let it heal, which means that there will be some form of emotional pain and memories from the past that have been suppressed that will come back up in the process. Let it flow and embrace it. Do not take it as abnormal! It is okay to let yourself process what happened, even if that means giving yourself ample time to mourn—just do not stay there. The whole purpose of reopening a wound—as stated in my subtitle—is to allow you to heal permanently and open yourself to love again. You cannot keep allowing yourself to make excuses to block out love just because your experiences have been subpar! You just cannot because you do not know what you will be missing out on if you block yourself to life’s amazing blessings and love notes along the way! Let go of the past and give yourself a chance to experience the love of a lifetime.
In my own personal journey, I had always pushed away the most important people to me—it was such a sad sight to see. All they were trying to do was help me overcome the fears that I had! Opening up my heart was probably the scariest times of my life but also one of the most amazing and empowering feelings ever. Yes, you have a chance of getting hurt and being that the person you are opening yourself up to is an imperfect human being, they will definitely hurt you in some way down the line. Does that mean you should immediately let go the very second that they accidentally hurt you? Not so—so long as there are healthy boundaries and you both can express your emotions in a healthy and constructive way. Learn to communicate and listen properly—it causes things to flow so beautifully. Learning the rhythms of the other person as well as vice versa on their end is so incredibly crucial. Without studying and learning them, you cannot properly serve and love them! Relationships are give and take—as long as it is always a balance between the two and not an unhealthy medium, it is worth taking a shot at love and sticking around.
So when love opens its arms to you, what exactly are you going to do? It is better to prepare now, your response and heal properly than it is to be caught off guard when it catches you by surprise because if there is anything that I have learned in the lesson of love, is that it comes when you least expect it. Unbelievably, I did not used to want marriage or children because of how independent I was. I was loving life as a single and was like there is just no way can that lifestyle be for me. Over the years, however, my heart has changed and grown and I have forced myself to open up to love and yield to the process that it brings me.
My challenge for you today is to choose now to heal and take the risk of loving someone—I promise it is so worth it and fulfilling. It is better to do love with someone else by your side!
Until next time beloveds, enjoy this adventure!