To Men Who Are Not Having Luck Finding the Right Woman

Have you been jumping from one bad relationship to another, or have you been looking for a while now and found no success whatsoever?

It might be time to change your mindset and step up your dating game tactics.

While it’s important to look for signs of a quality woman, you need to make sure you have something to bring to the table as well.

Finding love is not a matter of luck, it’s a matter of attraction. So the question now is, how do we attract the right people?

We’ll be honest with you, the process isn’t as simple as it should be. It involves a lot of self-improvement to be able to find the right woman.

In this article, we’ll be focusing on building the appropriate dating mindset.

Buckle up, clear your mind, and prepare yourself for some harsh truth bombs.

The Power of Having the Right Mindset

According to the laws of attraction, "A positive attitude attracts success." This is applicable in everything you do, even in dating.

We gain control of our lives when we start to think about what we want and how to get it in a positive light.

There's a word for it -- it’s called optimism.

Rather than beating yourself up and getting upset about situations you have no control over, focus your strength in taking charge of your emotions and ask yourself, “What can I do better next time?”

Practice seeing the positive side of situations.

Once you start to abandon self-limiting beliefs, you attract positivity in your life. Ultimately, it will lead to good things and positive outcomes.

Apply that to your dating life and you’re bound to attract a sea of potential partners.

Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life

To put it simply, you need to start believing in yourself and let go of unnecessary pressure.

Once you start to believe, everything becomes possible and achievable. You become comfortable in your own skin and don’t mind results - be it success or failure. In turn, meeting women and building romantic connections with them becomes easier.

What are you waiting for? Make a mental shift and improve your dating life.

Below are five mindsets that can help you find the right woman:

1. Equality Mindset

Instead of surrounding your thoughts with statements like “She’s out of my league, she’ll never be interested in a guy like me,” tell yourself, “She seems like a nice girl. I’m also a nice guy. We’ll both be lucky if we hit it off.”

No one needs to be placed on a pedestal. You need to realize that she’s equally as lucky as you are to be on a date with each other. Don’t lower yourself or be cocky -- these are deal breakers for women.

Interestingly, this mindset allows you to be more relaxed around your date. Since no one is above the other, feelings of intimidation and anxiety barely exist anymore. You no longer have to make desperate efforts to impress each other. You can then focus your energy on making a genuine connection.

2. Abundance Mindset

Instead of “Will I ever find the right girl?” think: “There are so many beautiful and good women out there, I’m bound to find my soulmate.”

A common mistake desperate people often make is treating every date they go on as their last chance at finding love. They become fixated on trying to make it as perfect as possible while forgetting the most important part -- having fun and building a genuine romantic connection. Don’t be like this.

There’s absolute truth to the saying “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”

Don’t limit yourself and obsess over a common clownfish. Remind yourself that your angelfish is somewhere out there, waiting for you in the vast ocean.

In the meantime, make the most of your life, go out on multiple dates, meet women, be open, learn in the process, build yourself, and improve. Don’t jump hastily into a new relationship where there’s barely a spark.

You deserve better. Don’t settle.

3. Assume Attraction Mindset

Instead of “She’ll never take a liking to me,” think: “She’s definitely into me.” Replace pessimism with confidence. It’s a top-tier trait that women find attractive in men.

What we’re saying is, you need to stop looking for signs that a woman is attracted to you. Rather, immediately assume attraction until proven otherwise.

If she left mid-date or stood you up, then she doesn’t like you. If she’s still in front of you, enduring your personality and terrible jokes, then she likes you. It’s that simple. No need to complicate things.

4. Connection Mindset

Instead of “I don’t want to ruin this date,” think: “It would be nice if she and I hit it off, but in the meantime, I’d like to focus on building a genuine connection with her and see if we’re compatible.”

Let go of obsessions and expectations. Don’t pressure yourself and force connections that aren’t there yet.

When you stop obsessing and focus your attention on enjoying the moment, you start getting to know your date on a deeper level. The more you know her, the better you can make up your mind if she’s the right girl for you or not.

5. Fun Mindset

Instead of a despondent “It’s not going to work, we’re not compatible,” think: “Things don’t always go as planned, and that’s perfectly okay.”

Take each dating experience as it is -- an epic failure, 'barely made' a connection, or a potential match. Let things happen naturally and don’t stress over the outcome.

Maybe you wanted the date to work out. Unfortunately, life isn’t as perfect as we would like it to be. It will occasionally throw pebbles our way.

In situations where your date went badly, just laugh it off and live your best life. Don't hold it against yourself (or your date). Some things aren’t meant to be. All we can do is enjoy the journey. So have fun.

Love, Life, and Lasting Connections

Open your mind and start looking at dating differently from now on. With the right mindset, you’re bound to find the right woman.

Remember, a happy long term relationship with your soulmate is achievable as long as you believe in its possibility.

Don’t rush. Take your time. Be positive.