When you are dating, you have a set list of preferences in your head. It could be "tall" "nice career" "non smoker." However, we sometimes meet someone who doesn't fit the mould and somehow we find ourselves attracted to them, despite our "checklist."
That is often the case with single mothers, a lot of men "in theory" have decided against the idea. But when they get to discover that we aren't just dribble wiping machines and that we are in fact real life human women, men can change their minds.
Despite a biological hardwiring that determines that the male kind are not exactly partial to nurturing the product of another man's testes, men DO marry single mothers. Besides, since history began fertility has been celebrated all over the world as a desirable trait.
Alas, despite history, despite everything, there are still some men that just won't even consider a single mother. You may have met one of them, you may have even dated one of them.
It's easy to feel annoyed at a man who refuses to date you because you have children and you will feel the strong urge to defend yourself. However, you can't have it all and more often than not closed minded individuals are not that desirable anyway. If someone truly wants you it doesn't matter if you have no legs, they will still find a way to be with you. If a man is honest from the start and removes himself from your life, you can be grateful that it didn't go any further and you avoided a lot of pain. Here's a list of the types of men that don't go for single mothers so you can identify them in the wild. 🌴🙊
1. "I'm too good for a single mum."
This guy most likely spends his days in his pants on Reddit. I wouldn't worry about him, he probably has fleas and makes sweet love to his Fleshlight.
2. The "I'm too good for a single mum version 2.0."
This guy is usually successful and quite attractive. Due to pre-conceived notions he genuinely believes he is too good for a single mother. Pray these men somehow end up single fathers.
3. The "I want to start my family from scratch."
This one is understandable, that's just how some people have their life planned. Consider it his loss and let him go with love.
4. The "I don't like kids."
Hey, where are you going? Come back! I don't like kids either!
5. The "See how it goes, I might change my mind" TOXIC.
RUN (Hint: he won't change his mind, he's a time wasting loser).
*No really even if he says, "If anyone could make me change my mind it's you," RUN.
6. The "I don't mind that you have kids."
He says he doesn't mind but once you drop the kids bomb on him he's nowhere to be seen. Even the FBI can't find him. Resist the urge to text.
This is the saving grace of single motherhood, players looking for something quick and easy with avoid you like the plague. There's nothing easy about dealing with little Timothy while you are trying to get laid.
8. The "My mum was a single mum so I know what it's like."
This guy has issues he needs to sort out, especially if he is comparing his date to his mother. Be understanding of him, it's innocent and likely the most genuine. May reappear, by which point you will have moved on.
9. Judgemental Men
Much like number 1 and 2 except they think they are too good for everything. Even Fleshlights.
10. Deeply Religious Men
Leave him with God (unless you want to try and convince him that the conception was immaculate).
11. Men who don't actually like you will also use all of the above as an excuse. 🐖
*NB if you don't know what a Fleshlight is, please Google.