The Only One To Save You From Your Narcissistic Relationship Is…

“Life is an ocean of chaos, and the realization that you are the one who is supposed to throw the buoy while struggling to stay afloat is devastating.” — Henry Barthe, Detachment

If we knew beforehand what we were getting ourselves into when dating the narcissists, WE WOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY FROM THEM AS SOON AS WE MET THEM.

None of us wanted to be in a relationship that drained us, psychologically maimed us, and changed us for the worst.

No one in their right mind wants that.

For many of us, we have been caught off guard, taken aback by the sheer insanity and irrationality of the narcissist.

We saw the red flags, but we ignored them because we tried to give them the benefit of the doubt.

And this allowed them to keep doing the negative things until it became the norm.

“That’s just how they are. Just accept it.”

We felt as if we had to understand them because they were “so damaged.”

We felt as if we needed to support them because they never had it.

We felt as if we had to “save them” because life has been “ever so” cruel to them, and only them.

We sacrificed so much of our time, energy, and life to them, only to have them step all over the gift that we gave to them.

And when they had drained us of all that was great inside of us, they threw us aside as if we were nothing more than garbage.

The pain that we felt comes from a myriad of attacks.

Attacks on our mind (it is not uncommon for people to develop many mental illnesses because of these people).

Attacks on our hearts (the feeling of betrayal can take a toll on us — and learning to love again can be difficult).

Attacks on our souls/ character (through their smear campaigns and character assassinations, we can start to doubt ourselves and even think we were the narcissist).

Attacks on our lives (they will work day and night to try and destroy the lives of those they despise).

This can lead many of us to feel helpless, which is what we want.

But…

You/ we are not helpless; we just forget how powerful we really are.

The Only One To Save You From Your Narcissistic Relationship Is…

The only person who can save you from the depression you feel right now, from the anxiety you have with meeting new people, from the anguish and despair is…

YOU!

A new lover cannot do that for you because you will always have in the back of your mind that they are just using you and trying to mold you.

A friend cannot as they will enable your victim mentality more so than help you become a warrior. And they will do it with sincerity — as they think pitying you is a sign of love; when in reality we live in, pity will get you hurt.

Family cannot as they may be toxic themselves. Most people end up with toxic people because they had a family household that was toxic itself.

The only person to save you from the pain you feel is yourself.

By you creating boundaries, you start to keep certain people out.

By you seeing the time with the narcissist as training to become your best version, you strip rid of that victim armor.

By seeing yourself as a warrior and not a helpless victim, you see hard times as lessons and challenges that you know you can overcome.

YOU are more powerful than you know.

Hard times have not come to destroy you or break you — but you break you through into becoming your best version.

They only destroyed your life because you view them as a destroyer of your life.

Re-vision the way you see them in your mind.

I see them as kidults, people who throw temper tantrums because they lack emotional intelligence.

Because once you stop seeing them as all-powerful malevolent beings, you can start taking back your life.

You are all you need to save yourself from your situation.

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