The Level of Mental Minimum

I Know, I know, the dating pool has pee in it. Well hopefully after this chlorine, maybe someday we all can get back in and maybe this time with some mental floaties that will prevent us from drowning. I was sitting down with my sister, and we were toying with some thoughts that should be into consideration. So what is the bare minimum one should have when considering jumping in the dating pool? There are so many thoughts that came out of this conversation, so will only cover a few. The most we thought a person should have the bare minimum not to do the following while on a dinner date.

I will start with the men! SMH, help me on this one because I do not consider myself to be a pander and I try to keep it real all the time. Men fall below the mental minimum (lets call it 2M) when asking a woman out and they worry about the following:

1. What she orders from the menu. If men cannot afford it, then why take her to dining experience that will break the bank? If there is any kind of financial struggle during a dinner date, then my brother, someone has fallen below the 2M. DO NOT TAKE HER OUT IF THERE ARE NO FUNDS TO SUPPORT THE EVENT.

2. Expect sex in return after paying for dinner. This is way below the 2M! Stop peeing in the dating pool with this mentality. Hire a call-girl where there is an exchange for goods and services. Save the drama and confusion because women can take themselves out to dinner.

3. At least know proper restaurant manners. Have some decorum, FOOL! Rude and distasteful behavior is a red flag on so many levels. At least have the mental capacity to act as if there is a sense of belonging.

Women, I have seen so many flaws at the dinner table and I will keep this simple. Find the the decency to thank a man for extending the invite to dinner (even if you didn't have a good time) he will figure that out when there is not a return call. This is the number one complaint that I hear from all men when they invite women out to dinner. We do not want to hear about a woman's independence in any form during the date. Stick to topics such as family, hobbies and thoughts about current events. Discussing your independence is falling way below the 2M. Try to stay away from careers as much as possible on the first date and just explore the possibility of a mental connection.

Let the fruits hold the weight and not a career. Now this is info for both men and women. If the career is the expectation to the level of respect or admiration that is received, then this is way below the 2M. None of the women I ever dated was quick to tell me what their careers. We should maintain a level of common respect, one to the other, no matter our occupation.

Speaking of which! Men, if there is level of discomfort dating a women who earns more, then don't date her. Women, it is not the assignment to announce your financial status at every opportunity. Unfortunately incomes and financial matters should not dictate the household when it comes to paying bills or making decisions, but we live in a world corrupted by money. On the flip side, men, money should not be a "ruler" of the marriage. No one should be restricted or controlled base on the amount of money and who is generating it between a couple. This mentality is far below 2M. I know there were some marriage examples and some of us date with that intent, so that was a focal point for me.

As mentioned, there are many issues to speak on regarding the dating pool. However, I will leave with this one right here. This is a all-time low if intentions are not clear. If playing the field or dating seriously is the goal, let that goal be known and stop playing with people's time and emotions. If the mission is to have sex after every dinner, make that intention be known before the first date. If vibe is "date them all sis" mentality is there, let it be known. Hiding intentions fall way below 2M.