The Dinner of Disappointment

Well it appears that battle of the sexes is here to stay. In the depleting dating world as we know seems to effect all races with the lack of communication. After all, we want the best for us, and while some may only think of wanting the best for themselves, the tainted ones are responsible for inaccurate data in the dating pool.

The concept should be simple, guy likes girl, girl likes guy, and they go out have dinner and have a good time. Unfortunately, that is far from the spin we have today. The struggle of having a decent time on a date with no strings attached is a far-fetched story these days. I get it! Women don't want to be treated like a piece of meat, and men don't want to used as if he is pictured as a wallet. Anyways, to the garbage can with men's feelings, right? The ladies should show some appreciation for the effort men put in trying to impress her, right men?

Where is the middle ground? How do we establish effective communication between men and women? When will the lie detector test app become available on smartphones? Too many questions and in the middle of it all, we are loosing good years as horrible communication is pulling us further apart! What can we do to find the greater intentions of a person before its too late? The ladies dread the infamous "body count" and men don't want to feel let down and empty after countless dinner dates of him flipping the bill, sending the flowers and putting in the quality time just to be "ghosted" or even "friend-zoned". If I could generally speak to the man's sexual nature, if that is not addressed, then men come away with an empty feeling. Here's the flip side! To tap into a woman's emotional core, is the greatest feeling she could give to a man. She establishes a sense of security, and a greater connection to the man she grants passage. To have that betrayed with the act of "wham-bam thank you, ma'am" could be so devastating!

So at what point does the white flag come in and gives us a break from killing each other? We all cannot be right, but we can find a way in these changing times, but the honesty starts within. Now I don't have all the answers, but I do have a suggestion as to where we can start. Whatever the method, do what gives you comfort! Again, the following suggestions are not gender specific and I hope this can bring understanding and give life back to a dying dating pool.

1. Try doing something together that doesn't cost money! We hear men complain about spending money and women saying they can buy their own food. Well, take money out of the equation and focus on each other.

2. If you really have to spend money, go "Dutch" and there will be no expectations after the night is done. Bring the art back of getting to know each other instead of trying to get over on each other.

3. Stop expecting sex after the first time together and stop looking for marriage after the first date. Slow down and take your time because fools rush in and I can tell you a very personal story all about that.

4. Consider your demographics. If you are a modern person, then expect modern people to do modern things. If you are traditional, then expect or look for people that are willing to do traditional things. Keep it simple!

5. Be honest to yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Don't spend time with someone you don't like and don't spend time trying to change someone who will not change by themselves.

Five simple suggestions to clear up any confusion you are having with the dating pool. No matter the situation, if you apply one or if not all of these suggestions, your dating life will have more clarity than ever before and dinner will never be the same.