“If you could change one moment, would you?” A common question asked in various ways with millions of answers. There were many moments I wanted to change if I could. My childhood was the best it could be. Velvet Barbie boots with heels that clinked all around the house and the loop of Blue's Clues episodes on VHS. Eventually this was traded in for a pair of white roller skates and daily adventures with the neighborhood kids. Up to a certain point ignorance, or should I say innocence—was bliss. But then one day those black boots, those roller skates, those VHS tapes, weren’t enough; enough to tune out the screams. To tune out the back and forth of words filled with hatred and regret. The threats and the violence and the anger. The constant questioning of whether it was a choice I made that caused the horrid domino effect that just kept going and going and going.
In the video above Dear Sybersue talks about women needing to change things up with dating in the millennium. If it's not working well then maybe it's time for the ladies to ask the men out!
“Once I get home and take off my pants, that’s it. I’m not putting them back on until the morning. Sometimes I don’t even make it to my room before I take them off.”“If I agree to do something more than a day ahead of time, there is a 90% chance I will cancel.”“I don’t want to go outside. There are people there.”
Love is hard. False, love is actually very easy. If you think about it, we all have someone in our life that we love. For example, it could be your mother, father, grandparents, aunt or uncle, friends etc, and we don't stop to think about how much we love them, we just do because it's un-conditional. We're brought into the world by our parents and in most cases we learn love from them without any conditions, because they are there for us and they surround us with safety and comfort.
If there's one classic move that guys do at bars, it's buying a girl they're interested a drink as a way to break the ice. It used to be a good way to show that you're a gentleman, and that you want to get to know the woman in question better.
When I married my husband, I didn’t realize that I had Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder or PMDD. In fact, I knew I had some kind of monthly dysphoria, but it was never as bad as it seemed to get once we were married. I won’t theorize about that for now because it could be the result of so many things…stress, change, age, etc…but I will say that for some time, my husband thought maybe he had brought it on, and to be perfectly honest, he wasn't helping!
In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses a topic that many women write to her about. They want to know how to get over a breakup a lot faster. Their self-esteem takes a beating and they can't seem to move on and feel good about themselves.
One of the hardest parts of dating is figuring out who's legitimately into you, and who's just stringing you along. With guys, it's even worse because being the fool who chases around a disinterested girl can turn you into a laughingstock - or set you up to be used.
Pick up artistry tricks have gotten a pretty horrible name over the course of the past couple of decades. To a point, it's because sites like TheRedPill and the current wave of toxic masculinity sites advocating emotional abuse have become somewhat inextricably linked with the PUA scene. It's also linked with guys who are literally stewing in their own insecurity - not a good look, really.
Some people can't handle loneliness and other people were meant to be alone. I am part of the second group of people. Don’t take me wrong, I have friends and I sincerely appreciate them, but I like to be lonely. Loneliness is not the bad guy as we were taught, it can actually help us to understand aspects of the problems we have and the struggles we face throughout our lives.