Where do I begin?

To the other woman,

To begin, you need to set a good, strong base for failure. Take absolutely no psychological inventory from this point forward. Go on and bring all that baggage right up, just beneath the surface. Make sure any tears produced upon reminiscing on childhood are ignored or extinguished by laugher. Do not work on your relationship with your father. Don't work on forgiving your family for any past misunderstandings. You're going to need all of these unraveled ends and gaping wounds to hastily construct something resembling affection in your romantic relationships.

I feel drugged by the lies that have been pushed down my throat. Forced to obey and adhere to the lies of a corrupt lover. Poisoned by your words. Your sweet nothings that actually meant nothing at all. You just wanted me under your thumb, you just wanted control. You thought I would never walk away. You thought I would never leave because I was so in love with you. I'm surprised you didn't use the children in your quest to keep me with the lies you told me.

I often forget the fact that I’m still married to an illegal immigrant, or maybe I block it out. The events of the summer of 2018 seem so far away in time and space; it all seems like a fever dream to me now. The only thing that proves this was all real is my legal status: a married woman. I let myself get so detached from this episode in my life, I only remembered when I had to check that box on my taxes. Only then, I thought to myself, “wow, I should really do something about this”.

Let’s talk about divorce for a minute. It is never easy for both parties involved especially the children in the marriage. Most of the time the children begin to think it is their fault somehow and then their life spirals out of control for a moment. T least until the parents reassure them that they had nothing to do with it. I am the child of a broken marriage and when my parents split it was devastating to me and my sister.

There is no denying that January is a busy month for divorce. Of late, it has become a national holiday for those who are determined to have their marriage dissolved quickly and with no fuss. This is not a normal state of affairs. Marriage should be dissolved in calm and comfortable surroundings, with friends and family around, so that you can enjoy the New Year in peace.

New Year’s Eve can be the occasion of celebration for divorced couples. Many people wonder why this is, and the first holiday where the transition of marriage is occurring is during the holiday season. The short answer is that the seasons change, and at some point, even those who are happily married may need to take a break. The reasons for this can be myriad, but the most common complaints seem to be lack of communication and inability to solve problems together.

I'm one of those women who are very particular with their dreams in life; who wants to be happy just like everybody else does. We have dreams to work in our job to have more experience and gain more knowledge, to have our own business five to six years from now, to get married and have a family, to get your dream house and car, and also, to achieve all other goals to pursue our happiness. At some point in that stage not too long ago, all of those dreams were shattered. I was completely devastated, not knowing what to do as my heart felt distorted in so many ways.

Divorce is a physical and emotional challenge for both partners. It takes much time, money and effort and often keeps spouses in constant stress and emotional tension and leaves devastated in the end. Even if you were the first to sign the divorce papers and feel no disappointment, you still may go through the feeling of guilt, hesitation, and resentment. Anyway, your unstable emotional state may lead to serious problems with your physical health.