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Storytime: The Day I Realized My Boyfriend Was Broke.
Ladies, beware! *********************************************************************** "If you have a good "Storytime" story that you want to share with me, I'll be more than happy to hear it."
By Jide Okonjo6 years ago in Humans
Are you overprotecting your relationship?
I asked myself this post’s titular question last week when I found myself at odds with two friends about the frequency in which they asked about my relationship. The first quarrel was initiated by a routine “catch me up” conversation via text with a dear friend of mine. We exchanged brief updates regarding the status of our sanity, work, and friends. I then asked her about her love life, in which she giddily revealed that her relationship had recently reached new heights. I was thrilled for her and expressed my congratulations with copious amounts of heart emojis, exclamation marks, and gifs of cartoons swooning.
By Kui Mwai6 years ago in Humans
Long-Term Couples Who Choose To Live Apart: Why Do You Do It?
Most conventional thought surrounding known couples, either dating or married, in the general environment is that they should be living together in the same context, under the same roof with the person that is claimed to be your better half or your lover. It becomes a different case to know that some people are married but living apart while some are just being a couple without being married. In civilized societies, it is seen as usual for these unmarried couples to cohabit together even without marriage, especially when in a long-termed relationship. To most people, they see it as there is a problem somewhere in the mix, but an insider question will be, why do they do it?
By JaneC Powell6 years ago in Humans
Love is ineffable
Love is strange, it can be compared to so many things in life. On the top of my head, the best of example I can think of is - love is like flipping a coin, you know that moment where you’re not supposed to hope for a certain outcome while the coin is in the air because that defeats the purpose of a coin flip? Well, you do, and in love, of course, you hope that it will be ever-lasting and beautiful, however, it’s 50/50 either the love (or the coin) will turn into an outcome that you’ve hoped for or it will be the exact opposite there cannot be a third alternative. You think love should be simple right? If the person already fell in love with you then why is it allowed for that person to fall out of love with you for the same reason they fell in love? How does that make any fucking sense? The definition of love is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” But what does that mean? So let us define affection and break it down “a gentle feeling of fondness or liking.” so basically it is an intense feeling towards a certain person, well how much stranger can it get, yet we trust and rely on such things, things we cannot study nor see or even hear, it is strange indeed. We do not know exactly how love can be broken down, it is simply a feeling, like how you feel hungry, yet we get heartaches and our heart beats faster when we are surrounded by love just what a feeling can do to our physical state. In theory, love is supposed to be the best feeling in the world, like a spring day where you’re somehow surrounded by flowers, daisies. It's silly because daisy’s aren’t even the best flowers yet it is the most common theme people think of when they think of love, not even roses which are an actual symbol of love in our society. Even so, love is almost always categorized with heartbreak, the most excruciating feeling in the world, why? Why do we put love (good) and heartbreak (bad) into the same category? I believe it is because people do not know what love is, aforementioned love is a feeling of deep affection towards someone, well you can love your parents and your friends, therefore you cannot ever truly be sure that the love you share with a certain someone is the true maximum “love” you can feel. We will never be 100% sure, love is forever and ever going to be a void humans will try to fill until well, the void will never be filled because love is supposed to be beautiful and spontaneous and magical, so by finding the true science behind love and filling that void is instead, a murder of something that once was unexplainable and beautiful. What do you do when you feel love, or something that can be defined as love yet there is so much uncertainty and the factors in it and the possibilities and etc. What are you supposed to do, how are you supposed to exceed the expectation of what love is supposed to be, or even more, what are you supposed to do if you truly do not know what love is for you? Are you inevitably going to walk on this earth alone forever, is love a necessity for happiness? Even so in the end, what would life be if we stopped searching for one thing we are most uncertain about, without love, constantly chasing after a feeling. And without something so trivial we would be lost, we are ready to experience heartaches and tears if we could just be in that moment with someone, if we could just live in that singular moment it is almost as if all the pain in the world is worth it because it pushes us to change to evolve and expand because a breakup makes you wanna become better for that person but what you don't realise that you become better for the next person, and the cycle repeats inevitably.
By Christina Doroghazi6 years ago in Humans
Breathe..It's Not as Deep as You Think
Reliving past experiences can be daunting but necessary for growth. So I'm going travel back in time and tell you about when I decided to take a risk and live in the moment. Being spontaneous was never my strong suit as well as taking the time to smell the roses. After my divorce, I decided to live a little and dive back into the dating scene. I never dated outside of my race for reasons that made logical sense to me. Being an African-American woman, dating someone of your own race seemed like the ideal thing to do. Plus, I didn't want to feel like a sell-out for crossing into certain territories. Despite my unease with the possible pursuit of someone who wasn't Black I decided to try it. For once, I wanted to be spontaneous.
By Shane 6 years ago in Humans
5 Ways To Get The Most Out Of Your Online Dating Experience
In the fast-moving, technology centered-world we live in, online dating has increasingly become the rule rather than the exception in the quest for finding love. We all know that love is a battlefield. Still, the constant barrage of societal expectations has only increased the pressure for singles to find and develop romantic attachments. It is debatable as to whether or not "swipe culture" has done more harm than good, but, as with all things, there are both pros and cons to online dating. While I don't claim to have a magic equation that will get you instantly "booed up," I have compiled a list of five practical ways for you to get the most out of your online dating experience and, hopefully, win at #relationshipgoals.
By Allyssa L.6 years ago in Humans
Emotional Rollercoaster Ride
Emotional Affair: "A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse that affects the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the relationship.”
By Ms. Terri6 years ago in Humans
Pour one out for the sidechicks
Being the side chick of some older guy, is a sad but complicated existence. You have your expectations of where things are going. (Nowhere). You know where you stand with them. (Not High) You can get treated special (but never have your relationship out in the open). I saw things differently being 19 and still a freshman in college. I graduated from high school, already sped through two summer romances and acquired my first job working at the information counter on campus.
By Ms. Terri6 years ago in Humans
How The Coil Almost Destroyed My Relationship
It's a frustrating fact of life that someone has to be on contraception, and as yet, it's not going to be the guys. At most the can 'wrap it up,' and even then we all know how they'll try everything they can to get out of that one.
By L.S.R6 years ago in Humans
My dating story on a dating site
I've always had a biased attitude towards dating sites. It seemed like there were people sitting there who couldn't start a relationship in real life. But then I noticed that I didn't get to meet new people in real life either. Work, home, meetings with old friends... Well, not on public transport to start a conversation, right?
By Taylor Dunne6 years ago in Humans
How I Met You
This is the story of how and when I met you. A bit of backstory first and foremost, I wasn’t supposed to have met you. The one thing you weren't supposed to do was sweep me off my feet and all that jazz but what did you do? Just that.
By RJ Scott6 years ago in Humans
Why Loyalty Is One Of The Most Valuable Traits
Loyalty is one of the most sought after traits in a partner in any kind of relationship, and it's no big secret as to why. And we all have high expectations of having a loyal partner, but in today's society that seems more like a dream than something that could ever really be a reality. There is so much deception and manipulation that loyalty is something that is difficult to come by in today's relationships.
By Samantha Proctor6 years ago in Humans