breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
The Situationship
Why Modern Dating's Most Toxic Invention Is Keeping Millions of Americans Stuck THE RELATIONSHIP THAT WASN'T ONE 📱 For eleven months I was in something with Marcus that had no name because naming it would have required a conversation that naming it was designed to avoid, and the something had all the intimacy of a relationship including weekly sleepovers, daily texts, meeting each other's friends, attending each other's family events, discussing our futures, sharing our histories, and the specific comfort of a person who knows how you take your coffee and what your nervous laugh sounds like and which topics make you quiet and careful, but it also had none of the security of a relationship including any shared understanding of what we were to each other, any explicit commitment to exclusivity, any conversation about where this was going, or any moment where either of us said this is real and I am choosing it and I am choosing you, because those words would have required vulnerability that the ambiguity we had been maintaining was specifically designed to prevent, and the architecture of the situationship which is the word that twenty-first century dating culture has created to describe this particular limbo is built on the mutual agreement to have all the emotional benefits of a relationship while avoiding all the emotional risk of actually calling it one 💭😔
By The Curious Writer7 months ago in Humans
When One Door Closes
As humans, we have so many contradictory feelings and emotions, it's crazy, confusing, and ultimately, "it is what it is." We want to understand, explain, or justify everything we do or say, in our imperfect way of trying to make it all make sense.
By Justiss Goode7 months ago in Humans
Healing Is Not Linear
The honest truth about what recovering from heartbreak actually looks like — and why the timeline is not yours to control There is a version of heartbreak recovery that gets sold to people in the immediate aftermath of loss. It goes like this: give yourself some time, practice self-care, focus on your growth, and eventually you will feel better. There is a timeline implied, even if never stated explicitly — weeks, perhaps a few months. You will cry, you will heal, you will emerge stronger. Clean narrative arc. Manageable trajectory.
By The Curious Writer7 months ago in Humans
Nobody Taught
The communication skills that could save relationships are almost never taught — here is where to start Conflict is inevitable in every meaningful relationship. Between partners, between friends, between colleagues, between family members — wherever two people with different needs, histories, and perspectives spend significant time together, disagreement will arise. This is not a design flaw. It is a feature of genuine human connection.
By The Curious Writer7 months ago in Humans
Why a Good Marriage Can Still Leave You Feeling Empty
I did not expect loneliness to find me inside a marriage. Like many people, I thought loneliness belonged to empty apartments, unanswered messages, first dates gone wrong, or breakups that left you staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m. I did not think it could quietly move into a life I had built with someone I truly loved.
By Cyn Márquez7 months ago in Humans
from sacrifice to betrayal the tragec life of shah nawaz
At just fourteen years old, Shahnawaz’s childhood came to an end. After his father passed away, he didn’t have the luxury to grieve like other children. While boys his age were flying kites on rooftops, laughing freely, Shahnawaz stood on the ground—lifting heavy tiles and throwing them up to the roof for construction workers. His small hands carried the weight of an entire family.
By Muhammad Yaseen7 months ago in Humans
4 Signs of Lovebombing That Everyone Should Know
Bloggers and relationship experts often describe "lovebombing" as the act of showering you with gifts, praise and extravagant displays of affection. Being lovebombed is fun while it lasts, but it's just a temporary distraction until the abuse sets in. Still, most relationships feel like a whirlwind of dopamine when you first meet. You may find yourself wondering, "How do I differentiate between lovebombing and regular affection?"
By Kaitlin Shanks7 months ago in Humans
Solving emotional triggers instead of suppressing them
It is a normal aspect of being human to be triggered by emotions. It could be a tone of voice, a particular situation or even a memory that can trigger strong responses of anger, sadness, anxiety, or fear. Most of the individuals react to these stimuli by repressing their feelings because they think it is the most effective mode of holding on to control. But repression is not the solution. It just covers it up, usually leading to its reappearance in future with more strength.
By Robert Smith7 months ago in Humans
