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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
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I just got back from an online date and had to share it with you… I don’t even know where to start! I had had a lovely day and was looking forward to having a glass of wine and catching up on a few TV shows before having an early night. Before I knew it my phone was ringing. Without looking I answered it, figuring it would be a friend wanting to pop over for dinner or a drink, that was a mistake. It was someone who I had been talking to online and because I have been having issues with my internet connection (thanks NBN) we had exchanged numbers to make it easier. I had been feeling bad about sending one message every few days, especially after I saw a news segment about how “benching” is now a common thing and I didn’t want him to get the wrong idea. The messaging had been terrible the entire time we had spoken, imagine trying to read this entire post without any grammar and you’ll have rough idea of what it was like! Anyway I agreed to meet him at a local shopping centre for a coffee and that is where my “interesting” evening began.
By Catherine Reynolds7 years ago in Humans
Working Woman? I'm Good
I am a millennial woman. I am a feminist. I have been allowed the chance to attend school and continue my education in college and eventually grad school. I am allowed freedom of choice in all decisions in my life, from who I date, where I go to school, and where I currently live. I have been allowed some of the greatest freedoms available to women in all of history. So why do so many people judge me when I say I want to be a stay-at-home mom one day?
By J.C. Marie7 years ago in Humans
The Wedding vs. the Marriage
It’s better to have a $30 wedding and a million dollar marriage than to have a million-dollar wedding and a $30 marriage. We see this all the time. Famous and wealthy people spend astronomical amounts of money to have fabulous wedding ceremonies but then the marriage only lasts a few months or at the most a few years. On the other hand, we see people go to the courthouse and/or the Justice of the Peace and end up being married for a lifetime. How is this so? Marriage is not about money. You can have all the money in the world, but if the two individuals are not compatible and mature, having much wealth won’t even matter. As the adage says, “Marriage is for grown folks” or should I say “mature” folks.
By Damon Nailer7 years ago in Humans
Relationship Idolatry?
Has love become your idol? Idolatry in relationships is very subtle. You don't know that you have that person up as a idol until everything they do affects your well-being and emotions to the point where it feels like bondage. You can't even follow your dreams because their opinion(s) matter more than your drive to follow after your passion. You're more focused on pleasing them and changing for them rather than focusing on you and growing within yourself. You'll never reach or really know what your purpose is in life if they're an idol (if you don't know what you've been placed on this Earth to do yet). That's why there are so many people that you hear about in relationships where you may think "Why is he/she in that relationship? ....and the person that they're with treats them with disrespect or doesn't value and treat them according to their worth?" They stay because they may feel staying with that person is more important than leaving and finding happiness. We attach ourselves to people due to our own insecurities and emotional hurts so we look to them to fill our voids instead of allowing the Creator to fill those voids for us.
By Alexis Patmon7 years ago in Humans
Endangered Species
“Once I get home and take off my pants, that’s it. I’m not putting them back on until the morning. Sometimes I don’t even make it to my room before I take them off.”“If I agree to do something more than a day ahead of time, there is a 90% chance I will cancel.”“I don’t want to go outside. There are people there.”
By D. Gabrielle Jensen7 years ago in Humans
Being Transgender Is...
Hi I'm Yannick and guess what? I'm transgender. That's right. I am a transgender woman. One thing about my transition is that, although I live as a woman, I have yet to have surgeries and I have yet to start hormone replacement therapy, also known as HRT.
By Merlin Mystique7 years ago in Humans
The Art of Getting By
I do not have a monopoly on suffering. But at seventeen, I've seen my fair share of it. However, this is no sob story, nor is it my entire story. Instead, this is just another chapter of my life---unfortunately, a rather mournful (but life-lesson ridden) chapter.
By Brooklyn M.7 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to My Stalker: Thank You.
At fifteen, a boy who I vaguely knew through a friend of a friend took something of a shining to me. This is no mean feat when you attend an all girls school, are entering your teenage years and desperately want a boyfriend. Not to mention the fact that I was a little frumpy and suffered from acne. Any attention from a boy two years my senior was, initially, well received.
By Hattie Haye7 years ago in Humans
Touching From a Distance
According to Gary Chapman’s best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, each of us naturally shows affection in one (or two) of five main ways – quality time, physical touch, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service. Feeling fairly confident that I knew how it was going to turn out, I decided to take the 5 Love Languages quiz to find out what my personal love language is.
By D. Gabrielle Jensen7 years ago in Humans