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Should Your Partner Always Stand Up for You?

A foreign man went to Ukraine alone and went home with two large suitcases and a new golden band.

By Vera TischenkoPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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A foreign man went to Ukraine alone and went home with two large suitcases and a new golden band.

What could have happened?

Western men have flooded the Ukrainian dating scene with hopes of meeting a potential partner.

Being one of the most sought-after, Ukrainian ladies continue to be desired for a good number of reasons.

Because they make excellent cooks and take care of their families well, being in a relationship with them is something you never knew you needed. They're also committed and honest lovers who tend to your needs without being asked.

It's safe to say that a Ukrainian woman is the epitome of a man's ideal wife.

When it comes to relationships, it’s normal to run into a few hurdles every now and then. It makes you stronger.

As partners, you have to be there for one another through thick and thin. But when these unfortunate situations arise, should your partner always stand up for you?

Relationships Are a Two-Way Street

It can be amazing to have a partner.

It's like having a constant support system for whenever you’re feeling blue. When you feel weak, her presence makes you feel alive all over again.

She is your refuge, and her support is enough to make you go on.

Relationships are like that. You don’t stay with someone just to celebrate your happy days. You also remain in times of trouble.

Because of this, you sometimes end up expecting your partner to catch you every time.

Growing as a Person

A good partner is someone who wants to see you grow. She will help you become a man who’s capable of standing on his own.

Although you complete and support each other, some battles are fought alone.

Below are simple ways for you to grow as a person in a relationship:

  1. It’s alright to argue. Studies have proven that couples who argue have a healthier relationship.
  2. Be sincere when expressing apologies, but don’t expect her to apologize either.
  3. Don’t settle if you don’t see any reason to. Be in a relationship that continually strengthens you and your life.
  4. Work hand in hand.
  5. Assess your growth. Being aware of your progress is helpful.
  6. Don’t suffocate each other. Always leave room for growth.
  7. Focus on her. No other woman is to be in the picture.
  8. Go on trips together. It gives you something to remember and look back on in the future.
  9. Make it a hobby to talk about your relationship.
  10. Always remind yourself why you fell in love with each other.

Setting Expectations in a Relationship

Not knowing how to set reasonable expectations in a relationship can be destructive.

Oftentimes, you make assumptions about what she wants but later on realize that it’s wrong. In effect, you unintentionally let her down. But if you set realistic expectations, you can prevent this from happening.

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On another note, it helps you make conscious decisions. You know how to compromise and adjust because you have the right expectations.

Plus, you always know where and how to change. It’s a healthy habit. Issues won’t be hard for you to address, and taking the next step is a little bit easier for you.

If you’re unsure about how to set realistic expectations, here’s a list to guide you:

  1. Avoid being complicated. Be clear about everything.
  2. Subtly set your expectations. As you go through the relationship, you’ll figure out how to do this.
  3. Be open-minded.
  4. Don’t get worked up over little matters.
  5. Be a team.

What You Should Be Expecting

Do you sometimes pause and ask, “What can I bring to this relationship?”

Having expectations is okay. It doesn’t make you greedy, but then again, not having one can make you indifferent.

The challenge lies not in debating yourself about this, but in knowing what to expect. Because Ukrainian dating culture is mostly built on love and respect, drawing healthy, realistic expectations can help you achieve this.

To help you out, here’s what you should expect:

  1. Complete honesty from her.
  2. Be pampered with her tender loving care.
  3. Commitment and mutual trust.
  4. Be treated with the utmost respect.
  5. Be supported and encouraged.
  6. Memories and time spent together.
  7. Consideration and space.
  8. Receiving her all.
  9. A healthy and stable level of intimacy.

Remind yourself that expectations can’t ruin a relationship as long as you don’t set the bar too high and make unrealistic ones.

Stand By You or Stand Up For You?

There’s a huge difference between a woman who stands by you and her standing up for you. Many get this wrong.

An ideal match is when someone chooses to stand by you.

She doesn’t always have to stand up for you, especially if you’re not right, but can you trust a Ukrainian woman to do such a thing?

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Yes. Being the ideal woman that she is, she will not think twice about standing up for you.

But if the situation was reversed, she’d call you out. It’s alright if she does. In fact, you should be happy if that happens.

Being with someone who’s brave enough to point out your mistakes means they only want the best for you.

She wants to see you grow, and sheltering you under her love and care won’t help you do that. She knows this too well.

If she sees the need to agree with someone you disagree with, don’t take it negatively.

Keep in mind that hating her for not siding with you all the time is unhealthy and toxic. It only makes you look selfish, so don’t make the mistake.

Being a Good Partner for Each Other

To be in a relationship is all about being there for someone. You won’t last long only with love. Stability, growth, trust, and maturity are also necessary.

As a couple, you always have each other to rely on. Constant support is what you’re ready to give.

But when adverse circumstances take place, stand by one another. It’s the right thing to do and it’s a must.

Ukrainian dating puts emphasis on mutual love and respect. As a man, live by these two values and be a better person not just for your partner, but also for yourself.

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Vera Tischenko

Dating Coach and Professional Matchmaker for Kiev Women

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