Relationships Mirror, Love as Reflection

According to the laws of love, you have no right to turn the mirror over to another person. Each person must use the method of the mirror as he wishes and when he wants, but only for himself and never for others.

Mirror theory in relationship psychology

We are imperfect by our very human nature. If we were perfect, we would always be self-sufficient. We wouldn't need each other anymore. We would not love each other, we would not hate each other, we would not interact, we would not bond.

We wouldn't count on each other. That would be monotonous. And sad. It is gray. But we exist in polarity, in diversity, in good and bad, in differences, in contradictions, in relationships, in everything that makes human nature so special and interesting. We are imperfect. They differ. Which is a good thing, wonderful. Alive. If colored.

We show that we are born with sympathies and dislikes around us. Sometimes unintentionally. We like a certain person. We hate another. There are often people around us who we characterize as "unbearable," "impossible," "annoying," "incomprehensible," people who get on our nerves or make us skip whatever they do.

We hate them, we avoid them, we reject them. Why? Because they have certain behavioral or character traits that lead us to categorize them as such. On the other hand, there are often people around us for whom we feel, since we met them, an attraction and a courtly sympathy.

Even if they hurt or mislead us, the sympathy for these people will persist over time.

As absurd, unrealistic, or truly repulsive as it may seem, in the personality of these people, we find certain traits of our own that we, on a subconscious level, try to repress or ignore. We reject from others certain aspects of our personality that we may not be aware of or may not want to be aware of.

We often develop a negative attitude towards a person because that person reflects a certain aspect that we reject in ourselves. We judge others by what we are, by what we think, by how much they resemble us or not, by the expectations we have of ourselves.

We choose our life partners and seek love according to these criteria. Because we are subjective in our choices ...

We are a mirror in which others are reflected, say psychologists. The others are a mirror in which we reflect in our turn. The relationships we establish with others are the mirror of what we need. When we look at others we look in a mirror.

This mirror shows us the reality of our needs and wants. Sometimes what we see in the mirror goes against what we want. Many times, we like what we see. We accept the reflection of the mirror. Sometimes we reject. Without seeing the reflection too objectively.

We are all someone's mirror. We attract and repel people. And mirrors show us the imperfection of our relationships.

We can use the people, the world around us, the relationships we establish with these people as a mirror. The mirror can help us identify those aspects that need healing.

Our relationships with others (family, children, colleagues, friends, life partners) reflect certain parts of us. The way you feel about a certain person is usually an indication of how you feel about the side of you that the other person is mirroring.

We draw mirrors into our reality to show us what we need, what we can develop and improve on ourselves. Those aspects of the other's personality are aspects of one's personality. They must be aware, accepted, integrated.

But it also happens to attract people with completely opposite features to us. These people are the reflection of the self that we are trying to deny, to silence.

The person in front of the mirror feeds a certain need of your personality and procures what you lack. The stronger and more intense the feelings of hatred or love for a person, the greater the likelihood that that person will be a strong and faithful reflection of you.

There are also positive relationships and negative relationships. There are also beneficent mirrors and destructive mirrors. Although their path is different and the suffering caused by the destructive mirror is not at all similar to the goodness given by the beneficial mirror, both lead to the point of self-knowledge, awareness of needs, and assertion of identity.

We can take a look at our relationships with others, whether positive or negative, to find out more about ourselves. We can do this by always applying the mirror principle.

Love in the mirror

We need a lot of courage and self-love to accept the mirrors within our love relationships. We need the courage to accept even our unacceptable parts (sorry paradox), without projecting them on others. "People we interact with or people who are our life partners are always mirrors that reflect their own beliefs.

At the same time, we are mirrors that reflect their beliefs. If we look closely at our relationship, we can see so much about the way we created them, ”says Shakti Gawain, a personal development expert.

The people we love or admire have certain personality traits that arouse these feelings in us. They also exist in ourselves. They may not have developed to such a large extent, but they do exist.

Unconsciously we are attracted to these people, considering that, in a way, we could acquire those traits that we admire in them.

If we are generally characterized as having a strong personality and are attracted to a sensitive and vulnerable partner, that partner will reflect the need to acknowledge and accept their vulnerability.

If we are sensitive and in a relationship with a strong person, it is very possible that we will feel victimized, controlled, overwhelmed by them until we, in turn, will be able to become aware and accept our power.

With its negative and positive parts, the world we experience is a projection of our consciousness. And how can this theory of mirrors help you? It can help you to accept yourself as you are and to accept others as you are. Even if you do not agree with what a person does, you may end up hating him not because of his behavior, but because of his personality.

It would be right to hate the action of a person, not the person initiating that action. Accepting those around you as they are can bring you more peace of mind and peace of mind. It can bring you self-acceptance, in all the diversity, splendor, and contradiction that exists in you.

Some relationships in your life exist for you to experience love. Some relationships in your life only exist to show you what things you need from the next relationship, to have something to learn from them, to figure out what is best for you, to understand, and to realize that in a love relationship there must be a balance between what is given and what is received.

"According to the laws of love, you have no right to turn the mirror over to another person. Everyone should use the mirror method as they wish and when they want, but only for themselves and never for others," says Lise Bourbeau in" Listen to Your Body. "