Relationship: When Is This Vulnerability and When Is It Strength?

Relationship: vulnerability or strength? Does the relationship make you vulnerable, exposed, or, on the contrary, give you strength and confidence? A difficult question: on the one hand, to give yourself completely to another person, to give your soul on the tray exposes you; but having a loved one by your side makes you confident, strong, confident…

Sometimes, being in a relationship makes you feel like the strongest person, with the confidence that you can get over anything with your loved one and that together you can do anything; other times, however, the relationship makes you feel weak, vulnerable, makes you feel that you depend on that person and that it can hurt you in an instant.

Often, the relationship offers you both: as long as you love and form a harmonious couple, it gives you strength and confidence; but the moment you become insecure when you encounter a problem, you see yourself as a weak and vulnerable person.

Relationship: vulnerability or strength - when the relationship makes you vulnerable

When you don't know if your feelings are shared. Being insecure about your partner's feelings, doubting them, wondering if he/she loves you the way you love him/her - this is a painful situation that makes you feel distrustful and weak.

You gave yourself to the person and you shared almost everything you feel and think - but what if that person doesn't (anymore) want you? Do you love with all your heart - but if your love is not (anymore) shared? When you truly love but do not know that you are loved, you are the most vulnerable in the couple, while the other is in control…

When you don't have security and stability. A relationship that does not offer you security, emotional comfort, stability, makes you vulnerable and insecure. When you don't know if you have a future together, when you don't know if you will be together for a long time or if you will break up soon, when you have no plans for the future - you live in a constant uncertainty that steals your trust in your relationship and yourself.

When your loved one is everything to you. When you give yourself completely when your whole world is focused on your partner and the relationship is the only thing that matters to you, you turn into an extremely vulnerable person. If you forget to maintain a part of your independence, if in your mind there is no longer "I", but only "us", if you ignore anything unrelated to the relationship and make this your center, you expose yourself completely.

Of course, it is wonderful to feel that you are giving yourself to your loved one and of course a relationship in which you love is very important - but you must never forget yourself and why you are without a relationship. Defining yourself only through the prism of the relationship and ignoring other aspects of your life means that your whole life can be destroyed if the relationship ends.

You don't have to become addicted to your partner and build your life just according to him: you have to not forget about yourself, to remain your person, to keep your individuality. And you have to have other goals and ideals in life, apart from the relationship.

Relationship: vulnerability or strength - when the relationship gives you strength

When you know and feel that you are loved and appreciated. Nothing makes you feel more confident, optimistic, and strong than the awareness that you love and are loved. And the feeling that you are appreciated, valued, important for the loved one.

The fact that you have someone you love and who loves you, in turn, gives you confidence that you can do almost anything and that you can overcome any trials in life. You wake up in the morning and, seeing your partner with you, you feel confident and full of vitality. Shared love gives us primordial strength and energy, an intense "joy of life", ability and the will to live every moment with optimism.

When it gives you confidence - in life, in the future. What can be so bad when you have a partner who loves and compliments you? What can be so difficult when you know that your partner will support you in any situation?

Why are you afraid of the trials of life and the future when you know you will be with the right person? Problems find solutions, and life, even when it's hard, still deserves to be lived to the fullest. You trust yourself, you trust your partner, you trust your solid relationship, your love, you trust this world.

When it makes you want to be better. This is when the relationship gives you strength: when it gives you the will to be a better person, it gives you the desire to develop, it gives you the stimulus and support to succeed in life, to achieve your goals, to do what you want to do.

In the end, a couple's relationship will always involve both vulnerability and strength: you expose yourself and you are vulnerable because you give yourself to someone else, you give them the power to make you happy or hurt you, and you gain strength and trust through the love of your partner…