Red Flags That Make a Huge Impact on your Relationship

When you enter a new relationship, you tend to overlook your partner's shortcomings and accept them as they are.

Looking back, it’s not the wisest of decisions.

If you tolerate things you don't like, you'll suffer from it later. No matter how great a partner is, there will always be something that you can't stand about them. It’ll make it even more difficult for you if these things keep happening.

To avoid running into more problems in your relationship, here are a few red flags to watch out for:

You Have Different Intentions for Getting into a Relationship

People have different intentions when they're dating. They either date with the idea of marriage in mind or date for the experience.

It’s fine to have different needs, but it’ll be difficult for a couple to meet them if that’s not what they’re both looking for. They either come out stronger or break apart. There’s no in-between.

It’s best to discuss what you both want out of the relationship. There’s no point in going forward if your goals don’t align.

Your partner might want to get married soon, but you aren't ready for that kind of commitment. You just want to try things out and go for a casual relationship.

You shouldn't invest your heart in something you're likely to lose. Disappointment will only await you.

At the onset of your relationship, you should be able to discuss what your expectations are. If you decide to compromise and work your way around it, you better keep your word.

Acting Like a Different Person

Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells with your partner? Are you cautious of the things you say when they’re around?

It’s normal to feel anxious at the beginning. You’re still trying to get to know each other, and it will take some to warm up to your quirks.

People tend to hide their less-than-perfect qualities to make it seem as though they’re flawless and perfect. Keeping this up for so long, however, will only be the downfall of your relationship.

The person that your partner will fall for won’t be you. Rather, it’s the made-up version of you. You don’t need to put up a fake persona to keep your partner in your life. If you do, then clearly the relationship is not meant to be.

The problem with lying is that it's nearly impossible to remain consistent. Every lie you've told will eventually expose itself.

It's not okay to tell little white lies to please your partner or avoid conflict. However, this will eventually pile up and burst at the seams.

Authenticity is the key. It will be much easier for you to attract the right person. You will never be happy if you have to force yourself to be someone else. This is even more true when you are in a committed relationship.

Being Hung Up in the Past

A person’s past bears a lot of weight on who they are right now. Letting your past hinder you from moving onto the future, however, will only cripple you. That’s one sure way of staggering your self-development.

When you talk badly about your previous relationships, you come across as spiteful and bitter. No one wants to stay with a person like that.

Even if you did have a valid reason for disliking your ex, it’s not good to always bring them up. These are the kinds of conversations that make your current partner feel insecure about themselves.

It will seem as though their company and attention aren't enough for you, that you still want your ex.

It’s much better to go out with someone who pays attention to the present.

Looking back into your previous relationship helps you have better judgment. But you shouldn’t allow your past relationship to affect your current one.

Treating You Well, But Treating Others like Trash

There are some days when we unintentionally ignore people because we’re not in a good mood. It’s understandable since we can’t help but feel down sometimes.

Being rude, however, is an entirely different story.

It is easy to predict how you will treat your future partner based on how you treat other people, so always be on your best behavior even when your partner is not looking.

Having High Opinions about Your Partner

Nothing in this world is black and white. No one is intrinsically good. In the same way, no one is intrinsically bad either.

Some people, however, conveniently forget about it during their honeymoon phase. They put their partners on a pedestal and think that they are the epitome of what’s good.

They’re only seeing half the picture. Scratch that — they’re only seeing what they want to see.

Your partner should not be treated like a god. Placing them on a pedestal will only put them under pressure. Your significant other is also an imperfect human being, just like you. So take those rose-tinted glasses off.

Being Too Dependent on Your Partner

Because of how safe you feel with your partner, it’s often easy to talk about your personal life or work with them. But don’t overdo it.

Your partner has their own stuff to deal with too. Making it all about yourself won’t give them the time to fix these things.

Being in a relationship does not mean you are one whole person. You each have your own struggles to deal with. If you need to rely on your partner to be happy, who can they rely on for theirs?

Dumping the responsibility of keeping you happy is unfair to your partner. You can be open about your issues to your partner, but you shouldn’t make it look like their responsibility.

In the same way, any partner that uses you only for convenience and does nothing in return is no good either. You’re better off alone if that’s the case.

Strive for a Healthy Relationship

Don’t settle for less than you deserve. There is someone better and perfect for you out there. In the meantime, work on yourself. Prioritize your well-being. The more you understand your worth, the better you’ll be at picking the right partner for you.