Questions to Ask Your Partner before considering a Long-Term Relationship

A serious relationship can happen to anyone at unexpected times. You have to be ready for the journey that comes with it. You might be on a hill today and go down to a plateau or a valley the next day. You won’t want to make mistakes or waste your time either. You must summon the courage to be open minded and ready to pop up some necessary questions if you want this relationship to work. No vehicle goes on a trip without an extra tyre or some extra oil and water incase of over heating. 

Communication is a solid foundation for a fruitful relationship. If your relationship must blossom as it lingers on a path of long-term and possible futuristic commitments, you have to ask your partner’s these questions below.

Keeping quiet never brings answers, ask and it shall be given to you. 

Ask your partner these three questions and watch your relationship soar into a long lasting interesting bond and possible marital union.

1. How do we spice up the relationship, when you no longer feel this way?

Relationships has its seasons, it could be rosy or thorny. The earliest stage of the relationship is always sweet and cozy. As time progresses and the blending phase starts the heat of the relationship is reduced. It’s just like acquiring a toy from a toy shop. When you buy the toy you are overjoyed about it and you won’t let it leave your sight. As time progresses and you see some dirt, cracks and you see other better toys, your love for it might begin to diminish. You can’t take this risk. 

Before you begin this journey which could be rather frightening you have to ask you partner what is that thing you both could do to spice up the relationship and bring that spark of love again. It’s a collective question because it applies to you both. You must however come to an agreement of things that could be done to make it work and keep the fire of love burning. Ask them “What happens when they no longer feel the way they feel about you'. When the love grows cold and sour what could be done to remedy the situation.

2. What can make you fall out of love?

When people are in love they might be quick to say they’d love you no matter what, it’s easier said than done. True love can be broken when there is no understanding of personal boundaries, actions and motives. Ask your partner about the things that can turn them off; the things that would pull their plug out of your socket. Ask them about their deal breakers and the things you could do to kill their attraction and love for you. It could be cheating, physical abuse and the likes.

3. What’s your love language?

It is annoying when you put energy in the wrong place. Most times we display love how we want it to be shown to us. This is selfish and unfair. Ask your partner what they’d love you do for them not because you want to worship them but because you love and care about how they feel. You are a thoughtful person if you can ignore your own assumptions and ask your partner what their love language is. You can take the love language test if they are opened to it. You can as well watch their actions to see what they prefer. It could be gifts over love letters or it could be an act of service over words of affirmations.

 Have a dialogue with them and secure a future far away from stressful arguments and chaos. If it must work, you must put the energy in by making sure they are happy every step of the way.