All of us deep down are searching for our queen or king. But sometimes things can get in the way, stopping us from meeting our person. Those things are you. There is no such thing as being too busy, or you already have kids that will stop you from finding love. Those are just excuses you make for yourself because it goes deeper than that. It's fear, trust issues, lack of self love, or afraid to be heartbroken if things go wrong. Those are the things that stop people from finding true love, thing is, you just have to be brave.
First off, stop looking for love, love will find you. That doesn't mean not keeping yourself open to love, but stop chasing it. Majority of the time it leads to false expectations and heartbreak. You know why? Because you forced something that wasn't meant to happen.
Secondly stop making a image in your head of exactly who you think your love will look like. It sounds like your ready to go to the pet shop and pick out a puppy. That said because think about it, for example, your whole life your stuck on a person with blonde hair, no tattoos, blue eyes and loves everything you do. Whereas you have met somebody that kinda looks like that, has a few tattoos and you guys have a connection. You really like them, but decided not to go for it because you can't get passed the fact they have a tattoo.
It doesn't make sense, your stopping your own happiness because of visual appearance. Looks don't last forever, what is inside a person counts.
With all that being said, stop being afraid of what could happened. Yes, love can end in heartache, and sometimes it will be painful, but that's love. Love isn't a fairy tale you watch on tv, this is real life and people have problems. That's why you talk to your person, have their back and support them in what they decided to do in life. As you should expect they will do the same for you. There's going to be good days and bad days, but that's why you have each other. Sometimes things don't work out, and that's okay. But at least you tried, you have learn what to watch out for or what to do better next time. No body is perfect.
Which is why if you have trust issues or experienced a really bad relationship take all the time you need to heal. If that means being done with, so be it. Nobody has the right to force you into something you're not ready for. That goes for anybody who is healing with whatever has happened.
When the time is right, the right person will come along. Take it slow, ask questions, and you are not obligated to keep seeing them if something doesn't feel right. Always listen to your gut. When the right person comes you will know, they will be everything your ex was not, and if your scared they will understand. If you want to take things slow, they will understand, they will leave the ball in your court, because they truly love you for you and respect your decision.
Whatever you have gone through, love will find a way.
Point is, we have all been hurt, all experienced trust issues and still some of us have them. But because of what you have gone through doesn't mean you can't have everything you want out of life. If you still want a family, kids, a husband, wife, all of that is possible. You just have to take it one step at a time, conquer your fears and one day your king or queen will come and you'll never look back.