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Narcissists; The Selfish Jerks

What is a Narcissist?

By Ha Le SaPublished about a month ago 3 min read
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Narcissists; The Selfish Jerks
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According to Greek mythology, Narcissus belonged to Thespiae; an ancient Greek city in Boeotia. He was a hunter by profession and very well-known for his beauty and charm.

According to Tzetzes, he rejected all romantic advances, eventually falling in love with his reflection in a pool of water, and staring at it for the remainder of his life.

So, the word came from Greek mythology.

Different traits of a narcissist are:

Self-centered

Narcissists are always concerned, excessively or exclusively, with themselves. A narcissist takes his needs as their priority. A narcissist is never interested in the emotions and needs of other people. They are wrapped up in their fascinations and dreams. They focus only on themselves. They never consider others as they care only about themselves.

Unsympathetic

Narcissists are cruel to other people. They behave too coldly in certain situations without kindness and sympathy. A narcissist is unsympathetic to the requirements of others. A narcissist is unable to understand the emotions of other people when they are stressed and upset; they hardly pay attention or do not want to understand.

Manipulative

A narcissist has a command of using words in a skilled manner. They make others too oppressed by playing with words, so others have to accept their ideas and praise their views. They always want to impose their will on others. Narcissists are very manipulative, so they get what they desire smoothly. They do not find it difficult to tell a lie and exploit others for their benefit. They like to make others dependent on them, either their partner or a family member. Narcissists are good at blaming others and projecting their faults onto others. They are good at reading others so they can manipulate them.

Unreliable

Narcissists are not the people you can depend on. They are generally not dependable but quite unreliable. A narcissist does not care about the impacts of his agonizing activities on the relationships. In certain situations, they are not trustworthy and obedient. Narcissists are pathological liars who try to hide things and manipulate others. They are good at blaming others, projecting their faults onto others, and never ashamed about this behavior. Their availability is zero when you need their help.

Dramatic

Narcissists are addicted to creating chaos and drama, maybe to get rid of boredom or entertain themselves. They make stories you do not know where they got and did not happen, even. They are always ready to pull others down. They act silly even after being aware of something. Creating drama is a ubiquitous trait found in narcissists. Moreover, they like to be the center of attention. At a party, they want to be in the spotlight, always.

Never forgiving

Feelings of anger, resentment, and revenge are like heavy rocks we carry on our backs. We have to throw these stones onto the ground and walk away. But narcissists do not think the same way. If someone does something wrong with a narcissist, he finds it too difficult to forgive others. Narcissists feel it is the greatest betrayal. Narcissists believe that if they let someone go unpunished, it is unfair. Instead of focusing on the future, they stick to the past most often. They plan to take revenge somehow without acknowledging that forgiveness is not a surrender of their power.

Have no authentic values

Narcissists change their values according to the situation. They have no exact values as they change the values according to the situation they are in. Narcissists can swing their moods too fast; they can be happy at one moment and sad or angry at the other. They enjoy using threats and guilt-tripping to control others. They are only kind to others when they get any benefit from others.

Always want to win

Narcissists always want to be on top of the game and always want to win. They think that someone cannot be better than them. If they find someone better than them, they start to hate that person.

A narcissist is an individual with an exaggerated sense of self-love. An individual who has a narcissistic personality seems to be arrogant, boastful, and egotistic. A narcissist is highly satisfied with their presence. A narcissist needs to feel affection from others and lacks compassion. Narcissists feel an incredible love for who they are and whatever they do. They find vigorous dignity in everything they do.

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  • Tushar17704 months ago

    "Thank you for sharing your poetic gift with the world; your words have the power to uplift, inspire, and heal."

  • C. Rommial Butler4 months ago

    A well-written sketch of the phenomenon of Narcissism! As someone who's dealt with various people identified with personality disorders in one way or another, and being a person who has had about a dozen armchair diagnoses thrown at me by various others, I have grown skeptical of these designations. I understand these are a work in progress from the clinical standpoint, but many people, especially and understandably those who feel they've been hurt by a narcissist, take these very malleable concepts and treat them the same way some treat their religious convictions. However, I would defer to some experts in the field on the subject. One of them is Elinor Greenberg, who posted a lot of helpful stuff on Quora and even took the time to answer some of my own questions. If personality disorders are a point of interest for you, I recommend her work!

  • Mariann Carroll4 months ago

    Very true!!! Unfortunately there are a few out there try to ruin other people life

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