Online Dating 2020

*Mild grammatical errors ahead.

First and foremost, let’s take a moment and admire the image above. It’s a coffee cup, no doubt about that but better yet it signifies the mess that 2020 has caused when it comes to dating.

Why a coffee cup Adam? Is it because it’s been a no-sleep/party all night kinda summer? Is the cup half empty or half full? Why coffee? Why even write about this?Stop. Stop. Stop. You’re already moving too far ahead of yourself; another point I’ll address later on, so let’s jump into it.

Today, we’ll be going over 3 things on how dating has changed because of 2020, and some pointers with dating.

So Pay Close Attention Here Kiddos.

#OnlineDating101

Ahhhh, the glorious onset of online dating. We unlock our phones, in hopes of receiving that “good morning” text as we pop a k-cup into our Keurig and start our morning routine. The sun is shining, we open up a window to let the fresh air into our homes, change into our work clothes, brush our teeth, decided if we have enough time for breakfast, comb our hair, do our makeup for the cute guy/girl at work you secretly like, then we’re out the door and on our way to glorious traffic! ...I mean work.

Wait wait wait...I thought this was about online dating Adam? Sounds like a regular morning to me. What gives?

You’re right! I’m so sorry to get off track, let me get right to the part where once the pandemic hit, shit like that stopped happening.

Here’s the truth folks. Online dating has been around for a fair amount of time. Tinder is a fuck buddy app, while bumble and hinge seem to attract more of a modest approach to one night stands. Nevertheless, online dating is the future for all of us. Society has shifted its weight towards making sure you’re “verified” on Twitter, Instagram, getting likes, tiktoking your heart out or snapping a dick pic/ass shot versus actually finding someone out there in the wild; the real world, like with sidewalks and parks and shit.

The pandemic has hit us in a manner that we will never forget. Bars, restaurants, schools, companies and more have been impacted and what has that done to us socially hungry humans? It’s made us strive for social interaction that much more...but with a twist.

With such redirections, how in the world can someone get their dick wet?! Who’s going to sit on my face? Should I make an onlyfans account? “I’ll make a premium snap” Whoa whoa whoa...slow down there.

Take your ass twerking down a notch and let’s dive in even further to the mess 2020 has made.

#Whoareyou?

Because of this pandemic lasting for so long, a lot of us have forgotten the core values of people, we’ve forgotten what it’s like to actually understand one another on a personal level; physically present with each other. Text messages, FaceTimes and phone calls are interpreted however you want to have them interpreted. You’ll decided how the other person is “saying” a text to you or “listen” to what you want to hear on the phone and “see” the person you want over FaceTime. The problem here with online dating is that you give yourself too much credit for depicting who the other person is and I’m here to tell you to trust the good intentions of another.

We’ve all had shitty dates before. Online dating could lead to cat fishing, horrible food, terrible events, weirdos, freaks and downright nasty shit. BUT it could very well also lead to a wonderful life long relationship. The only problem with that happening, is along with this pandemic, is that some people are starting to believe that dating just no longer exists.

Some believe that staying single, doing their own thing, fucking who they like, admiring the guilt and pain they cause others is all honky dory. Wrong. The manifestation of such thoughts should be illegal! Just kidding. The moral of my rant is to express the fact that online dating has created a clusterfuck of confusion between who you are as a person and who the person on the other side of the screen is.

With no physical interaction, we can be anyone we want to be behind the scenes, but when we are presented with a physical opportunity, excuses can be made and hearts will be broken. Put some thought into my words and tell yourself how you feel about all of this. You might surprise yourself and maybe surprise others too.

#WhatDoYouWant

A lot of us in this world always want to figure out what we want. We want to know what we want in a career, a car, a life, family and...*drumrolls* a relationship. As previously stated before, getting your “dick wet” is a want for some but not right away for others and so on as an example. Actively restricting ones ability to socially interact with other individuals really puts a cramp in your style. Online dating seemly divides “what do you want” into 2 categories I feel.

The first category of “what do you want” is well the first divided side; Fucking. I think there’s a very fine line between knowing what you want with just wanting to fuck and wanting a relationship, but recently it’s become more confusing than ever. I do feel people need to be open and transparent about this category. It’s a straight line with no other directional course and to the point; a bullseye. People often try to slide into ones DM’s and attempt to be slick about it but honestly just say you wanna fuck.

I wouldn’t try to butter someone up, snag feelings, fuck them then dip, that’s called being a dog shit of a person but it happens. Instead, try to be upfront, the other party will try to be upfront too so you can save money by not buying their onlyfans, buying drinks, save calories and burn a ton later under the sheets.

The second category couldn’t possibly be the other side...a genuine relationship *gasps*

Adam, what’s a relationship?

Well, my definition of a relationship is an emotional and physical connection between 2 individuals where both parties share similar interests and beliefs and respect each other’s values to the point where their bond would grow stronger everyday with each other, other than without. ( Terrible run on sentence I know).

Nice opinion

Thanks.

When it comes to engaging in a relationship, there’s a lot of variables that need to come into play, as I mentioned a few above. Recently however, people can fall in love by a simple text, a random dick tug on a first date or modest push up against a wall. No opinions on that, it happens, but the relationships that do manifest, mostly come from online dating and trusting that, that individuals is true to their values online versus offline. I’m not saying everyone is dishonest, believe me, I’ve had my share of loyal and trustworthy woman in my life; there just are some individuals that change their mind though in an instant and that’s okay and not okay for those who’ve gotten hurt before.

Relationships require a lot of maintenance, whether you think they do or not. They do. I’ll gladly argue my opinion with you over a cup of coffee..see what I did there? More importantly, a relationship requires time and a lot of it. It requires patience, trust and loyalty and people do exist out there that express those qualities but sometimes don’t actually have them. By all means I am a man of wanting a relationship, but since this pandemic has started, it seems to me that a lot of us have forgotten how to have an actual relationship and are excuse ridden of actually wanting one.

#WhyDoYouWantIt?

This last piece will be a fair length of wording and because it tapers of the other 2 subjects I’ve previous stated before.

Probably the biggest confusion that has risen from a hypothetical bottomless pit is the truth of knowing why people want to date, want to fuck or want to have a relationship. The majority of us aren’t typically faced with these questions on a day to day basis, so I’ll clear the air right here and right now for you!

Us as individuals absolutely love indulging into new things, exciting things and things that’ll make us feel alive. Be that a drunken 1 night stand, having sex with your ex’s mom, getting into a relationship when you don’t want to but agree to it anyway, being the step sister stuck in the dryer and asking for your step bro’s help, whatever you’re into, we enjoy new things.

I guess to put it into contexts of why we want to have a relationship or why we just want to fuck can be simplified as in “because I just want to fuck” or “ because I’m lonely” or even “because I just want a relationship” okay okay, that’s fair. My point here is that dating, especially online dating is mostly expressed through words on a screen and we need to break that barrier to the point where we are engaging in actual interaction now that the pandemic has slowed down. Interact in a safe manner, instead of continuing to hide behind a screen and just take selfies instead of your whole body because your self conscious about yourself.

When it comes to dating, be proud of who you are and there will be someone who will appreciate you, for who you are. Yes that means for a relationship or a quick fuck for all those single people out there, someone will appreciate your witty charm guys or dazzling dress girls.

As a final note here, I just wanted to say thank you for reading my post.

They’ll be many more that follow.

Cheers!