New Dads Need to Be Aware That Their Role in the Relationship Has Changed Significantly

"You're going to be a dad!" is a statement that men do not know how to react to. Although the first emotion they show is a surprise, only when they realize the meaning of the statement will they show their joy or sadness? As women, the first question men ask is, "What do I have to do now?" One of the most important tips for new dads is, "Get informed."

Once you find out that you will be a father, start informing yourself from any source you have (internet, TV, books, etc.) about pregnancy, about birth, and especially about the newborn.

The best tips for new dads are those offered by other dads who already have children, who have experienced on their skin the stages of the family with young children. So, if you have friends who already have children, run to them and ask them everything that interests you and you want to know about life in threes. Of course, it is not mandatory to face the same difficulties as him, because each person is different.

Also, don't expect your wife or child to behave the way he or she did. Every woman is unique and reacts differently. For example, if his wife did not want to have sex during pregnancy, it does not mean that your wife will not want to. Also, every child is unique and behaves differently. For example, if your child slept only during the day and cried all night, it does not mean that yours will do the same.

Here are some tips for new dads about pregnancy:

1. Pregnant women are irritable and easily annoyed, so try to be as calm as possible so that if you get angry you don't get anywhere. So, get your wife right if you want to settle a dispute.

2. Don't be scared if your wife has an apparent crying crisis for no reason! This is due to hormones and the woman becomes more sensitive and vulnerable during pregnancy. So try not to raise your voice to her because she might start crying.

3. Pregnant women have cravings! Unfortunately, it is only a matter of food cravings and not sexual cravings. So if you want everything to be fine, satisfy all his cravings even if he wakes you up in the middle of the night and tells you he wants something.

4. Don't let her put in too much physical effort, especially in the last trimester of pregnancy! Try to help her with household chores because your child's health is more important than cleaning or other household chores. If you can't do it or you don't have time, you can call someone to help you (eg mother, mother-in-law, etc.).

5. Make a connection with your baby right from the belly. Go to the gynecologist with your wife and ask for an ultrasound to see the baby. Your heart will glow with happiness when you see him for the first time! You can also caress your wife's tummy every 10–20 minutes every night and talk to the baby (choose a name and name it). You can, for example, massage your wife with anti-cellulite oil on the belly, which will be beneficial for both the wife and the baby.

Tips for new dads when the baby is born:

1. Go with your wife to the maternity ward when she goes into labor and be with her when she gives birth. Even if you will not attend the birth, the fact that she knows you are behind the door will help her a lot.

2. Immediately after the birth, ask the nurse to show you the baby. Take a picture of him too! Your wife will thank you for that later.

2. After giving birth, do not hesitate to tell your wife how happy you are that she is the mother of your child and how much you love them both.

3. Take at least 1–2 weeks off to be with your wife after she gives birth! She will need you and your baby very much.

4. Get actively involved in your child's life! A child is a human being who has many needs that he cannot satisfy on his own, that is why there are two parents. Raising a child is a very tiring thing both physically and mentally, so it's a good idea for you and your wife to share your responsibilities so that you can both be actively involved in your child's life. For example, you can choose to be the one to bathe the baby.

Regarding the couple's relationship, here are some tips for new dads to maintain a good relationship with their wives:

1. Talk openly with your wife about how you feel! If you feel neglected and abandoned, lonely and inattentive, tell her this because she will understand.

2. Don't insist on sex! Your wife will resume her sex life when she feels ready, and the more you press her, the less she will want to have sex. On the contrary, the more you feel that you help and support her, the more likely you are to want her to have sex.

3. Don't argue with your wife in front of the child! Try as much as possible to resolve your conflicts without raising your voice to each other, especially when the child is in the room with you. It is best to talk calmly about things that will upset you and come to an agreement.

4. Infidelity is not a solution! If you feel unhappy in your relationship, find out that marital happiness decreases with the birth of a child. Don't try to look for happiness outside of the relationship because you will regret it later. Your wife and child need you, and you have to be very patient.

One of the last tips for new dads is to give up some taboos: not to smoke in the house, not to have a beer after work, not to go out so often with friends, not to watch all the matches, etc. If you want to be a good father, then you have to give up in favor of the child. Good luck!