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10 Signs That He Will Leave You and the Relationship Will End

It's better to know the signs.

By Rory DunkleyPublished 2 years ago 6 min read
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10 Signs That He Will Leave You and the Relationship Will End
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Are you looking for signs that he will leave you? Then, you already feel that something is wrong and the first clue that you should never ignore, as a man or as a woman, is the one in you: your intuition, which tells you that something has changed - and not for the better! Many times, we ignore the practical signs because we want to, but intuition does not lie…

So, whenever you feel instinctively inside that something is wrong, open your eyes and look for other signs… Here are 10 signs that he will leave you (or that this idea is turning him around):

More time away from you. Usually, a couple with a history forms a certain routine that involves a frequency of meetings, a certain time spent together. When this changes suddenly, without objective bases, it's time to ask questions. Does your boyfriend/girlfriend spend more time away from you?

Does it tell you that he stays longer at work, even though there are no changes in his professional life? Do you notice that he/she has a new hobby that takes him/her away from you for a long time? Do you notice that he/she prefers to stay somewhere else - is he/she happy when he/she leaves, is he/she happy when he/she is near you? A first sign that he will leave you - but not just one…

Emotional distance. Among the 10 signs that he will leave you, this one is hard to ignore: a certain detachment, emotional distance, and indifference. When you feel intuitive that the other person prefers to avoid you - both practically, going to other places, and emotionally, avoiding intimate and close discussions. He seems strangely detached, indifferent, and changes the subject, avoiding intimate conversations.

Practical changes. Does it seem to you that suddenly, for no reason, your boyfriend/girlfriend has made or wants to make some practical changes to the way he/she looks, the way he/she dresses… Does he/she arrange more carefully when going out?

She changes her style somewhat (clothes, hairstyle, starts going to fitness)… Of course, this is not in itself a sign that she will leave you, it can only show that your boyfriend/girlfriend has decided to change for the better, but with other clues, tell you something - something that is not in your favor…

Affection gestures. Of course, after a long time in any couple, even happy, the gestures of affection become rarer - fewer kisses, fewer hugs, fewer young hands… But when you see that he/she almost always avoids them and seems uncomfortable when you try to get physically close to him/her, it shows something.

Non-verbal language does not lie - so whatever you say in words, it is better to follow his physical reaction. Avoid long hugs by retreating as fast as possible? When you take him/her by the hand, does he/she smile and withdraw uncomfortably? When you are together, do you seem to be looking for a place and a position that does not allow for close contact and direct contact?

Your plans for the future. In any lasting couple, there are some plans for the future. Whether it's the near future, "what we do on vacation," or the distant future, "when we get married," "where we live," "how many children we want," etc. When looking for certain signs that will leave you this is an important one. If you come up with something out of the ordinary, then they have to re-think their position. "Then something important changed for him/her. Namely, it is too uncertain that you will end up putting those plans into practice because it has begun to think about ending the relationship.

Sex. Along with the absence of affection gestures, the sex life may be also affected when one of the partners is thinking about a possible separation.

Doesn't she seem to want sex anymore, does she seem indifferent and when you have sex, quite detached? Sex, when it is, is more of automatism and you don't feel it there, involved, next to you? If you ask, you may get a typical answer, "I think so," "It's not like that," "I'm just stressed." But open your eyes and do not ignore such signs. Sure, sex often goes downhill, but when you instinctively feel that the other person isn't even interested, that they don't even want to try - it can't be a good thing.

Critics. Where are the compliments and appreciation? It seems to you that lately, the other one is only getting criticism - it can be his way of convincing himself that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. He is frustrated and irritated that he wants to break up, but he feels very guilty.

And you easily become the target of his frustration. A gloomy, even mischievous behavior comes from both this guilty frustration and a subtle attempt at times - to put yourself in a position to end the relationship. Women and men who are afraid of guilt and confrontation may choose to behave badly and unacceptably with their partner, thinking that at some point they will take the first step towards separation. In addition, criticism comes from somewhere - when love ceases, you see your partner differently, you see him in a new and not very pleasant light… What you used to like and what you used to accept because of love now seems like things ugly and unacceptable. Anyway, at least I didn't go down without explaining myself first. How do you do that?

Arguments and accusations. It is not always a sign that he will leave you. Quarrels exist in any couple and often, when one of the partners wants to break up, he rather avoids the quarrels and withdraws himself - because he doesn't care anymore! But other quarrels may arise - related to certain criticisms that your partner throws at you.

And related to an accusation that sometimes appears in these cases: that you would want to cheat or end the relationship. Paradoxically, sometimes people who feel guilty because they are thinking of cheating or ending a relationship repress their guilt and project their thoughts on their partner. Simpler: when he/she wants to break up, he/she may react strangely and accuse you of his / her thoughts!

Those around you… In order not to be blind/blind to the signs, try to look at those around you, close to the couple. Those who know you both have noticed something different - sometimes outsiders are objective and can see some signs more clearly. What about his / her personal friends? Do they behave differently?

Sometimes, the partner who wants to break up first reveals himself to close friends, to ask for advice. How do they treat you - seem confused, uncomfortable, seem guilty, or seem more distant, less kind to you? Simply ask a girlfriend/boyfriend directly if she knows something you don't know.

An indirect approach… And finally, the last of the 10 signs that he will leave you: when he indirectly discusses a possible separation… When he asks you things like: "are you happier in the relationship or when you are alone ) and independent? "," don't you miss independence? "," could we remain friends? "," I look at you more like a dear friend "," what would you do if we were the same way With such questions, he/she is actually testing the ground, probably irrationally hoping that you will happily answer: "yes, what an idea - let's just be friends". This is a pretty clear sign - and the indirect approach comes because he/she is afraid of your reaction, is afraid of hurting you, is afraid of confrontation, and wants to test, to find out what to expect.

When you notice several of these 10 signs that he will leave you, do not close your eyes; don't try to ignore them; don't try to find other explanations; look no further; don't be fooled. Ask the other person directly why things have changed and if his feelings have also changed and decided what you will do based on his answer.

And don't get me wrong: even if he/she says everything is ok, but you still see many of these signs, the truth may be that he/she is still thinking about whether or not he wants to break up… So don't tell him anything until he doesn't know what he's going to do - in other words, he's waiting for you…

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