Negative People Are No Exception, They Are Toxic To Everyone

We make the biggest mistake when we think we can change a person.

We are all to some extent selfish and individualistic. Sometimes it is a matter of survival, other times we simply let ourselves be manipulated by our Ego. Plus we always invent motives and are guided by our subjective suspicions. But the toxic people in this matter outweigh everything and everyone.

The rule of love - is the same for everyone. If we are loved, it means that we have broken the rules. In this way, we have given up all thoughts that concern ourselves, and we have turned to all that we mean. But many do not understand an essential moment: even if you have done this for your loved one, this does not guarantee that no one will make her suffer. Unfortunately, many things in life are against logic and justice.

Many times we have the belief that if someone loves us (apparently), they should have the same behavior as we have towards that person. And here we are wrong! We are warned by loved ones and friends that our partner is toxic to everyone.

The universe warns us countless times! But we just ignore it. We hope so. We believe. We are convinced that in our relationship that person will behave completely differently. Yes, he is a bit violent and not good at dealing with others, but he "loves" us! This is all that matters.

We make the biggest mistake of our lives: we begin to believe that we can change another person. That in time it will be unrecognizable.

It's all about the truth that you can never change people, just love them. And you will only be able to love them if you accept everything that you will never be able to change in them. After all, you will understand that you have painted a beautiful picture, but the man next to you is not even close to what is there. It will simply disappear. And you will stay with the same person as she has always been. While you were hoping, you could change it.

Character - is the totality and culmination of all the deeds and actions of the person. It is almost impossible to write your script and be the way you want to be. You will simply waste time lying to your person, your hopes.

That is the nature of character: it is what people do regularly, but not by chance or unknowingly. Even if you understand the reasons and the reason why your partner behaves in this way - this does not change the situation you are in at all.

Toxic people are especially dangerous for relationships. Of course, each of us understands that most of them were not born that way, but they have become toxic in the light of things that have happened in their lives.

And, by causing pain and discomfort to others and loved ones, they simply try to make up for the lack of love, self-confidence, self-respect, and everything else. The problem is that you understand yourself. Meanwhile, the problems gather and grow like a snowball.

We have to witness hate scenes, endure humiliation. Yes, we are aware of why they are behaving this way. But what can we change? We can't change anything. We can deceive ourselves as much as we want, that our love will change them, but one day you will have to admit the truth. Recognize that you cannot live such a life.

We keep making excuses for them. We regret we get angry, we forgive, we get angry again…. But that doesn't take away from the fact that toxic people cause us pain. And all our good intentions, for the most part, are not necessary for us or them… Unfortunately, love cannot solve them all.

Very often the toxic man, whom you love and try hard to save, simply uses your kindness and naivete. He understands perfectly well that your relationship is failing, but why not take advantage of this situation? Especially since people like him fill their gaps inside.

What do you get out of this whole situation? A big hole in the soul. This hole was created during the whole relationship when you were trying to fight the windmills: you were trying to defeat the bad guy. Now you don't have to save him, you have to save him!

Toxic people operate on a well-defined plan. This is how they differentiate themselves from other people, who also have shortcomings. They don't do things by mistake or accidentally upset you, humiliate you. He practices this tactic in dealing with all people. And you are no exception. Although you may love, regret, try to understand, and forgive.

Ordinary people are ashamed when they mess it up, they try to solve the situation. Toxic ones - they are simply programmed to be toxic. Even when I love. Otherwise, I just can't. Yes, but I don't want to either.

It doesn't matter if they understand what they are doing or not, the result will always be the same - toxic people cause pain to everyone.