Myths About Love That You Shouldn’t Believe In After 20 Years

Man can be alone but at the same time, he can be fulfilled and happy. And when love enters his life, happiness doubles. Today we will address the myths that overshadow our happiness.

Myth 1. All you need is love

Love must be at the heart of the relationship. Definitely. Love is the foundation of everything that exists. But is that enough? Not. It is important to have your values, priorities, and interests. It is important to respect the person, to talk to him, to spend interesting time outside the bedroom.

Love, based on passion and physical attraction, disappears. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT ain't for me either. That applies to everyone, including you. What will you be left with then? You need to know what binds you apart from the bed.

Myth 2. Distance strengthens love

It is a widespread myth nowadays. Many live in different countries, meet online, meet several times a year, and consider themselves "in a relationship."

Indeed, if your partner has been away for a short time, you will miss him or her. But long separations, which last for months and years, are dangerous. This is especially true for men.

Myth 3. I will immediately recognize my second half

You will only be able to find out immediately whether or not you want to spend a night with this person. But to consciously start a family, it is important to know how a person behaves in different situations, what he thinks and what his aspirations are. This decision is to be made based on various information. And it takes time to build them up. That is why love, at first sight, is not a reason to get married and have children.

Myth 4. If he loves me, he will only communicate with me

Of course, this is exactly what happens when you are in love. People never get tired of each other, they always want to be together, to look at each other, to touch, to talk. It's natural. But that won't last forever.

You are special personalities, with their thoughts, fears, feelings, problems, interests, desires, and friends. You have something in common that unites you. But there are also things that you have to experience on your own. Otherwise, you no longer have a healthy relationship, but a toxic addiction. The person who asks you to always be by his side has serious psychological problems.

Myth 5. If he loves me, he will understand me

No, it's not. No one will understand you. If you understand this, if you try to be aware of the magnitude and details of the manifestation of this axiom, you will make your life easier.

If you want something, if something doesn't suit you, say so directly. No hints.

Myth 6. I must not express my dissatisfaction so as not to shatter romance

If you started a relationship today that you plan to end tomorrow, don't waste your time with unpleasant things. There's no point. But if it's about love, about the future, then you have nowhere to go. The sooner you start doing this, the better.

At the initial stage of the relationship, the model of the coupled interaction is formed. Things that bother or irritate you at first will not go away. They will only get worse. Therefore, as soon as possible, start discussing the details that bother you constructively. Do it gently, without pretensions and annoyances, then they will not turn into a weapon that will destroy everything.

After a long time spent together, partners often say, "This is a taboo subject," "I can't tell you everything," "I won't be understood if I suddenly change my behavior." But that doesn't happen in a day. People have been doing it for years. I shut up and swallowed, not wanting to bother, to spoil the mood.

Myth 7. He's jealous, so he loves me!

Love is a constructive feeling. It improves what is already good. But jealousy is not a constructive feeling, but it grinds slowly through suspicion, accusation, and insult.

No one made anyone happier out of jealousy. While that's what love is all about - making someone else happy and being by their side. So stop packing pink and give love to your fears, inappropriate behavior, vulnerability, and possessive feelings.

Demonstrate your love and do something in her name all the time without waiting for the right time.