5 Myths About Life That Make Our Existence Bitter

You live without worries until one day when you realize that half of your beliefs and visions do not belong to you, but are imposed from outside. It is often about the opinion of those around you about what is right and what is wrong. Criteria that make you live "like everyone else." We absorb these beliefs from the atmosphere.

Throughout life we ​​soak them, read them from somewhere, hear them, or find confirmation here and there - and gradually we begin to believe in these things, and they become part of our lives.

This is even though they are not an axiom and each must be guided by its truth. The only axiom you should follow is that there is no axiom in the world except those related to the exact sciences.

Therefore, let us review the indisputable "truths" accepted in society and followed by all who are not as such.

This is an illusion. As well as the pages of "friends" on social networks. Here's a simple example: try to look at your life through your neighbor's eyes. Or a man who doesn't know you very well. Or a co-worker. How do you look in their eyes?

Do I know what thoughts are bothering you before bed? Do I know your fears, which you overcome day by day? Do I know what difficulties you went through to get the simplest things - the roof over your head, the food on the table, the warmth and safety? Who can know them but you? No one. Nor can you know what lies behind the success and seemingly happy life of those around you.

Believe me, everyone's life has a shady side. But few would display it, which is why we see only the beautiful and polished side of the coin.

CONCLUSION: If you have enough time and strength to think about the well-being of others, you are probably wasting your time and strength in vain or you have not channeled them constructively. Do something useful. Do something with your life to improve it, leave the foreign life to others.

Man is lonely without relationships

Whoever went through a breakup will agree with me, and whoever doesn't know what this is, just take my word for it. There is a simple truth: there is no more oppressive loneliness than when you feel alone with someone.

Loneliness is a feeling. It has nothing to do with the number of people around you. Man can be alone, but not alone. On the contrary, he may be in a relationship, but a deep sense of oppressive loneliness may reign in his soul.

The feeling of loneliness comes not as a consequence of the lack of people in our lives, but when you do not find yourself in it. When a person loses touch with himself, when he no longer loves himself, he does not respect himself, when he gets bored with himself… most likely he will be just as lonely with other people, no matter how deep the relationship with them.

CONCLUSION: Restore contact yourself! Or he once existed, didn't he? As a child, do you remember? Where did he disappear? Only after you restore it will you be alone.

Being strong means not showing that you are hurt

Also, don't show that you care. We live in an age of total indifference. And selfishness. They are all so self-centered that it has become a disgrace to express human feelings. Even the strong feel hurt sometimes. Their power is not limited to the fact that they do not know what pain means or do not express it. Their strength lies in the fact that they can accept the pain, it does not grind them from within, but they overcome it, after which they continue their life with new forces. And sometimes I start over.

CONCLUSION: Don't be afraid to express your feelings, cry, ask for help, or talk about feeling unwell. This does not make you more vulnerable. Instead, people who are not ready to accept you as you are may leave your life. That is why we are afraid that we will not be accepted as we are. Yes, you might say goodbye to someone. But isn't that good, can't you be the way you are?

There is a "noble lie" that "does good"

I mean the cowardly lie, when it's easier to say "yes" than "no." When it's easier to lie when you say "you look great!", When in fact it's not. When we bring words of thanks, when in fact we are not grateful.

When we say we love when it's uncomfortable not to say it in response to a declaration of love. When we betray ourselves in expressing our feelings, our opinions when we betray ourselves in our actions.

CONCLUSION: Say only what you want to say, not what those around you want to hear. Do only what you want to do, but not what others expect. Be honest with yourself. Learn to listen and hear yourself.

You will be happy when you get one or the other

It is a very dangerous myth, a sure way to disappoint. If a person considers that his happiness consists in certain things, people, or purposes, that he only has to wait a little longer, to make a little effort and he will reach his goal, then he is destined to live with a continuous feeling of dissatisfaction, having only snippets of ephemeral happiness, which will inevitably lead to disappointment. Or the effort and shortcomings he went through to reach the goal do not compare with that moment of happiness that he tried at the end of the road.

CONCLUSION: Happiness is sprinkled along the way to any goal you have set for yourself! It is important to learn (yes, this is a habit we must learn!) To find happiness where we are not going. Let's learn to enjoy simple things.

Rejoice that you have a goal and you can do something to achieve it. Or you have a dream and you can dream. And it is a new day, in which there is room for both dream and purpose. And all this is happening to you. And in the end, you may be rewarded for the path you have taken!