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My Husband Is Going To Leave Me (What To Do If You Think Your Husband Is Leaving You)

Are you in a panic right now thinking my husband is going to leave me? Are you wondering what to do if you think your husband is leaving you? You're not alone, it's happened to many women before you. But the women who did the right things are the one's that ended up with an even better marriage than ever before.

By Hailey SadiePublished 2 years ago 7 min read

What do you do when your husband wants to leave you, but you want to save your marriage? This can be one tough decision. On one hand, you love your husband. Yes, you know there are problems in the marriage, but you don't think ending the marriage and breaking up the family is the answer. On the other hand, your husband wants to leave you and any kind of relationship requires two people to commit.... one wants out, he or she is out. So, what do you do?

The answer is very counter-intuitive. That is why it is very hard to save a marriage by yourself - the correct things to do are all very counter intuitive, meaning they are not what you would think you would need to do. For example, when your husband first said (or made it clear) that he wanted out, your first reaction was probably to either cry, beg, or simply try to change his mind by talking. Whatever it was, I am sure it was more about fighting that decision. However, this is not how you save your marriage when your husband wants to leave you.

What you need to do, the counter intuitive thing, is NOT to fight with your husband. You have to acknowledge the fact that for whatever reason, your husband wants out of the marriage. Now is not the time to change his mind. He has done the thinking and come to the conclusion that he is better off without you. If you fight him and do not give him the opportunity to be alone (which is the very thing he thinks he needs) that "need" will just get bigger and bigger in his head and then the whole thing will become much worse.

The right thing to do in this situation is to offer a trial separation. From his side, it makes a lot of sense. He is getting to be alone, which is what he wants. But it is like the demo of being single again - if he wants to stay that way you two can go ahead and get a divorce.

How it works for you, is: Your husband wants to leave you, and has an idea about how life will be without you. But it is not going to be that way. The neighbor's grass is always greener -when he is without you, he will understand that life is not like as he thought it would be. He will begin to appreciate all the little values you were putting in his life, and he will come back. This is what usually happens after trial separations.

Even if both spouses love each other sincerely, at times they might find themselves getting more and more distant from each other and getting close to a divorce. But like me, you too can take some steps into saving your marriage and turning it into a satisfying relationship.

3 Tips for Rekindling the Spark in Your Marriage

In today's society with such a high divorce rate it appears that instead of working on rekindling love many couples take the easy way out and go straight for divorce when their marriage runs into difficulty. Although there may be times when divorce is the only solution, looking for ways of rekindling love in a marriage can have rewarding results.

1. Anger and Resentment Can Stop You From Rekindling Love

When people live together as married couples it is natural to have arguments, disagreements, and sometimes disappointments between couples. Learning to resolve differences and letting go of resentments is important to rekindling love and saving a marriage by avoiding lingering feelings that can poison a relationship. Learning to apologize when we are wrong or say the wrong thing will help with marriage restoration by keeping negative feelings from developing between couples. We are all human and are bound to do or say something that makes little sense to other people at times. If you and your spouse have grown apart, learning to forgive is one of the keys to rekindling love and saving a marriage.

One aspect of marriage that can be used for rekindling love is letting go of the anger and resentment by learning how to communicate with your spouse. Unfortunately so many couples are unable to sit down and enjoy a simple enjoyable conversation with each other because of simmering anger and disappointments. Mastering the skill of communication can resolve a tremendous amount of stress and anger in marriage and can lead to effective marriage restoration.

2. Taking Care of Your Physical and Mental Health Is Good For Marriage Restoration

Rekindling love goes smoother when you are physically and mentally healthy which means getting physical exercise, eating right, and doing things to benefit your emotional health. Often couples may let themselves go creating an atmosphere that lowers interest in each other. Take a look at your marriage now and consider the following questions about when you first met and married your spouse:

• When you first met your spouse what type of behavior did they exhibit? What were you like?

• Did you or your spouse stay on the computer constantly, play video games all day, and lay around on the couch or in bed all day?

• Did they complain about you constantly?

• Did you spend enjoyable time together? If so doing what?

• How was your personal hygiene? Did you and your spouse bath and keep yourself fresh and clean for each other?

• Did you and your spouse try to look attractive to each other?

• Did you or your spouse have independent interests and activities that you enjoyed?

• When you met your spouse did they seem to enjoy life? Did you enjoy life?

• What is it that attracted you to your spouse?

• What attracted your spouse to you?

• What are you and your spouse doing now about rekindling love? Do you have a marriage restoration plan?

Although it may not be possible for things to be exactly as they were when you first met and married it is possible to work on doing some of the things that first brought you together. There are some things in the above list that can help in rekindling love if you work at it. Pick the ones to work on that you will actually follow through with. Challenge yourself don't do what is the easiest.

3. Spend Time Together When Working On Rekindling Love

If you have been married for a while you are familiar with the how stress and the obligations of daily life can take it toll on you and your relationship and create the need for rekindling love. Taking time to be with each other can include simple pressure free activities that relieve tension. Doing something as simple as telling jokes, allows you to be silly and laugh with each other.

Although talking with your spouse about important things is necessary for rekindling love, doing simple fun things together are just as important to bring closeness

• Go for walks - hold hands if you have the feeling to do so - if not just walk and talk

• Play games together

• Run errands together

• Do chores like yard work or housework together

• Go to movies

• Go to dinner

• Go on a cruise

• Stay overnight or for the weekend at a hotel

• Carve out a time when you can be alone and just talk - about anything(be sure to mix up talks to include light hearted as well as serious type talks

• Arrange works schedules when possible to spend time together.

• For effective marriage restoration you may want to create a written schedule of time to be with each other doings activities with just the two of you.

Making your marriage a priority is a big step in rekindling love. One of the biggest causes of lack of intimacy and the loss of love in a marriage happens after children are born. The demands and needs of children can take over a marriage and leave little or no time for couples to give their marriage the fuel that it needs to keep going.

Studies have shown that children do better in a family where the parents have a stable healthy marriage relationship. When the marriage is allowed to falter the parents are doing their children no favor. Seeking ways of rekindling love is actually good for the marriage and children

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Thinking about regaining the status of "Happily Married"? It is possible, and is not difficult if you think it is not. But exactly how you do so? If you would like the source most couples used to revive their relationship, strengthened their marriage, regain trust and love in the marriage and not giving up then visit Secrets To A Happy Marriage


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