My Ex Doesn't Want To Be Friends With Me (Being Friends With Your Ex And Getting Back Together)

The tough question is - can you be a great friend with your ex?

I sense that many couples end their relationships and have a hard time to deal with their painful feelings when that happens. Certainly, you are not alone. Many people just like you do experience that you are trying to be a good friend with your ex.

Being a great friend with your ex is not so bad because when you two know each other so long time and want to keep in touch with each other. Being a great friend with your ex does not mean you would get her/him back. It depends on some variety of changing feelings between you and your ex. Importantly, it's coming from your heart, not your mind. Let's find out how to be a great friend with your ex:

First, you need to learn how to talk with your ex and make sure that you have a positive attitude. If you do not have any positive attitude, you would not be able to be good friend with her/him. The reason is that you may have mixed up your feelings between being good friend and being an ex. You need to think about your attitude and make sure that you consider yourself as a positive person before talking to your ex as a good friend.

Second, you are willing to be there for your ex. Showing your emotional support for your ex can become more stronger because she/he can notice how much you care for her/him. If you refuse to be there for your ex as a great friend, you consider yourself as a selfish person. (That's so true!) Encouragement and emotional support are the important keys to build a true friendship.

Third, you are encouraged to keep opening your mind when you communicate with your ex as a great friend. For example, your ex may need your good advice on how to overcome her/his insecurity. You can create some good advices and he/she is happy to listen what you say from your thoughts. Otherwise, you can say that you are happy to help her/him. If you are not able to give some good advices, he/she might assume that you are not helping.

At last, once you become a great friend to your ex, she/he can recognize that you are very caring and positive person. You can prove that you have a great character to be an amazing friend.

How to Get Your Ex Back Without a Fuss

There's enough drama when you go through a breakup...why should recovering from a breakup be equally dramatic? Getting your life back on track --and even getting back together with your ex-- doesn't have to be as massive of an ordeal as the separation itself was.

If you're cool about all of this and don't make drama for yourself by pining over a 50 gallon bucket of ice cream, you can really change things around for yourself and possibly for your ex as well. You just have to take it all one step at a time and do what you have to to make it work out.

First thing to do is take a few deep breaths. This isn't going to be the easiest thing you've ever done, but it can be systematic and fairly simple. You just need to calm down and look at it in a mature manner. Ask yourself if it's worth it. Are you willing to put in a lot of work and dedication in order to win your ex back? Or are you content to just sit and be miserable? It's up to you.

If you decide you're going to give it your all, then good for you. You've taken the first step. You're on the road to recovery. Next thing to do is to sit down and take a look at yourself, at your relationship. What happened to make it take a wrong turn? What caused the breakup? What part of it was your fault?

And don't deny that you have some fault in the matter. Actually, if your ex was the one who broke up with you, it was probably mostly your fault. I'm not pointing fingers, just saying...it's fairly constant in most relationships that the person who's not having his or her needs met is the one who does the leaving. There's no use crying about it, just accept it and figure out what you did wrong.

Because, once you puzzle out your contribution to the breakup, you can FIX IT! Whatever your issue(s) was(were), you can fix it(them). If you were too bossy, always hounding your partner about something, you can ease up and stop being so controlling. If you had a hard time staying...loyal...you can slap yourself silly and stop roaming around, sampling the population. If you were too lazy and never wanted to do anything in the relationship, get up off your butt and get out into the world. If you weren't paying enough attention to your partner, snap to attention and focus (don't forget to LISTEN!).

Any problem you may have that isn't genetically coded into your DNA can be fixed. Luckily, 99% of problems that cause relationships to end AREN'T genetically coded into your DNA, so you can't use that as an excuse for your poor behavior. Remember that if you want any kind of positive results, you have to put in some effort on yourself.

So analyze yourself to find the things that need to be changed, change them, and keep those changes steady. Maintenance is key here, because if you renovate yourself all nice and purdy, get your ex back, and slide right back into being how you were...you'll get dumped again. You have to actually change...and that means BEING the new you, not just being the same old you with new behavior. It's hard, but not impossible...and if you're serious about succeeding in relationships and even in life, you need to do it.

So cool, you're the new and improved You 2.0. How do you actually end up getting the love of your life back? Well, it's a gradual process...you have to be gentle with it, and not move too fast. It really mostly starts with a phone call or email asking how your ex is doing. From there, slowly build up contact again until you're talking to each other enough and spending enough time together for your ex to notice the new you. Don't go waving "lookie lookie I'm not lazy anymore and I care about your feelings!" in their faces...let them see that on their own. This is where BEING the new you comes in.

So just take it slow and easy, do things the both of you always enjoyed doing, and if you did a good enough job on yourself your ex will probably start to think that he or she made a mistake in leaving you. Things usually work themselves out this way, and if by some chance you don't masterfully sweep your ex off his or her feet and get back together...the new you will be hotter, more confident, and a lot more attractive to the opposite sex now that you're all groovied up with your behavior modifications. If you don't succeed with your ex, you most certainly WILL succeed with others...and your ex wasn't the only person in the world who could make you happy.

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