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My Ex and I Always Make Eye Contact (My Ex Watches Me From A Distance)

Are you thinking my ex and I always make eye contact, and wondering why that is? Well you're certainly not alone. This actually happens quite often. If you're saying my ex watches me from a distance then you'll want to read every word of this article.

By Jade AubrePublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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Just because a relationship has ended doesn't mean your ex has lost all feelings for you. Sometimes, exes don't say what's on their minds out of fear that they would simply be rejected. After all, how can one take on a rejection after a breakup that's already too much to take?

You are probably apprehensive about drawing closer to your ex for the same reasons. You don't want to mess with their new found freedom because you're not sure they still want to give you the time of day. If you're not a big fan of spontaneity and would rather have clear cut signs to guide you, here are some of the things that will tell you that your ex feels a lot for you still, and that you can pursue them if you wish.

Listen to the tone of their voice

Aside from the words that may come out of their mouth, listen carefully to how they say things. You probably know your ex enough to distinguish what tone are they using on you. Every individual speaks differently depending on their mood as well as to the person they are talking to. This is the reason why it is one of the most convenient methods to use when you want to know more about what your ex is thinking.

Is it the lover tone, the one they used to speak when you are still a couple? Do they speak as if they are impatient? Or they are just mainly indifferent? As long as you know your ex well enough, this is a great tool for you.

Where is their focus when you talk?

This one you don't have to be face to face to know. If your ex still has feelings for you, they wouldn't seem distracted and out of focus when you talk. They wouldn't appear bored too and would even push the ball rolling by interacting with you. It's hard to fake this one especially if you tend to ask them some questions.

Also notice where your ex is looking, when they are talking to you are they looking at you giving you their full attention or looking elsewhere. Most people will look away when they are lying or aren't telling you the whole truth.

Think about the words they use

If their sentences would usually refer to "I" than "we", then either they don't think much of you or they are just self-absorbed. You can say that your ex may have some feelings left if they would frequently use "you" and "we" in their sentences. It means that you are still in their future plans and they are concerned with that is happening with your life.

Your ex is too available

Do you phone them and they'd say yes when you're barely done with your invite to a movie? Are they always hanging around where you are and seem too glad to see you? Perhaps they just want to be friends, but most people who go through a breakup don't want to be friends unless they haven't gotten over the fact that it's truly over. Your ex easy availability shows you that he or she still hasn't let go.

Your ex is curious about your love life

Oh if they only knew they're the only one running through your mind! An ex who still cares about you will most likely ask about what you're doing with your life, and will be extra curious about whether you are dating, and who.

Your ex still involves you

Pay attention to how they talk. Do they say "we" or "us" instead of referring to both of you as individuals? This means that your ex still subconsciously thinks what you have isn't over. A person who is completely over will not even bother with the other signs mentioned earlier. In fact, they will even want you to carry on with your life and with other people. If your ex still talks as if you were together, it means that they still want you to be part of their lives, now and in the future.

Your ex makes his or her presence felt

A simple text everyday, even so much as a one-liner is a clear indicator that your ex is still thinking of you. When people break up, they just want to get amnesia to forget the pains of a separation. But when your ex texts you, sends you emails, calls you and leaves your messages, isn't this a clear sign already of what they want? If you see these signs, you can decide what to do with them, and the rest is really up to you.

If you have never used these indicators as signs your ex has feelings for you, why don't you try it now? You would be surprised by the results. It can give you a better idea what's the real deal.

Take These Two Steps First to Get Back Your Ex!

Have you recently broken up with your partner? Are you resigned to never getting back together... or are you hoping for reconciliation? Are you playing the victim? Or are you just feeling miserable and feel the situation is hopeless?

Listen, if those are the sort of things you're feeling, I have some great news for you!

If you're prepared to put some work in to get your ex back, then there are plenty of options for you. Look, we all deal with break-up in different ways, but separation doesn't mean you can't ever get back together with your ex!

To be honest, 9 out of 10 times there's no reason why you can't get your ex back after a break-up, providing you know what steps are necessary.

The first step to getting your ex back is to determine what caused the break up. Even though you can't go back to the past, and you can't change what happened, you can learn from the mistakes that were made and then learn and grow from the experiences. The secret is being able to do that with your ex. The secret is getting to a situation where you can talk and discuss things in a cool and calm way.

OK, let's look at why your break-up happened. Maybe your break-up occurred because of a single event, or maybe it happened because of behaviours or actions that your ex couldn't deal with anymore. The important thing here is to be honest with yourself. If you're not, you won't be able to find the reason for your break-up and there will be absolutely no chance of you getting back together... ever!

Whatever it was that led to your break-up, you must get the specifics figured out so you can deal with the situation if it should ever come up again. You can get your ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long term basis... if you want a loving and fulfilling relationship... you need to understand what went wrong in the first place.

OK, once you understand the reasons for the break-up, you can move onto the next step...

Step two in the process is to ensure that you're not coming off as desperate or needy. You must not come across as the victim who cannot cope. You may well feel like you can't live without your ex, but there's nothing to be gained by making that obvious. Instead, you must come across as being strong, and let your ex see that you're coping fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see you're comfortable and happy, then you'll have a much better chance of getting back together with your ex.

This isn't the same as trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous. In fact, those are probably some of the worst things you can possibly do, because it'll show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have. Whilst you want your ex to see you're doing ok, you don't want it to inspire them to completely move on! If your really do want to get back together, let your ex see how strong and self confident you are, and they'll feel inspired to get back together with you.

If you start with the two simple steps above your chances of getting your ex back, will be much higher, but just as important, whilst working on why your break-up happened, it's absolutely vital that you don't make matters worse...

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