It doesn't matter if you don't get married.
Love is a spiritual luxury, and it's okay to have none
A while ago there was a hot topic on Weibo:
"I asked my mother, is it okay not to get married?"
"My mother said that if there are fireworks outside, the neighbors will smell the food.
On the street, the family walks hand in hand, as long as you can hold back your tears. "
I thought that everyone would feel the loneliness of being single and the desolation of old age, and thus long for marriage.
But I never thought that the answer with the most likes in the comment area is this:
"That thousand-dollar fireworks poke into my heart for no reason and want to buy it, but some people say you don't know how to save.
I just got home from get off work and I haven't changed my shoes, but someone tells you to cook quickly, the child is hungry.
It's finally the weekend, so I can quietly read this novel.
But some people say that the weekend is good, and they want to take the children out to play.
If married life is like this, can you hold back your tears? "
In fact, life is a multiple-choice question, no matter how you choose, there will be regrets.
What we can do is to choose the one we like the most and want to choose the most to reduce regrets.
So, whether to get married or not, you just want to figure it out.
If you want to get married, I wish you an early date to meet your sweetheart and marry love.
And if you don't want to get married, it's okay to be single all your life.
Someone on the Internet was urged to get married before, and then left a message on Grandpa Zheng Yuanjie's Douyin, saying:
"Grandpa Zheng, I don't want to get married."
Grandpa Zheng replied to her:
"This is your right under the Civil Code."
Yes, whether to get married or not, this is our personal right to choose.
rather than an obligation that must be fulfilled in life.
Life is not a test paper, and marriage is not the only answer.
If someday you want to get married.
It must be because you have met the person who makes you calm, treats you well, loves you, and is truly worthy of your lifelong entrustment.
Not because of other people's urging, or because of age.
Then hurriedly choose a person, get married casually, in order to make do with the rest of his life.
The future of two people is far more terrifying than the loneliness of one person.
Not long ago, a girl asked her mother:
"In case I really can't meet someone I like, you will arrange a blind date for me like other parents. Do you have to marry me?"
Her mother's answer made countless netizens cry:
"If you don't get married and live happily ever after you're single.
Then there is no need to marry for anyone's eyes, and we will not force you.
Your life is yours, and your own happiness is the most important thing. "
As the saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong profession, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.
It is better to be alone and be beautiful alone.
Inner abundance and freedom are more important than everything else.
The famous lyricist Lin Xi once said:
"A lot of people get married just to find someone to watch a movie with.
Not someone who can share the experience of watching movies together.
If it's just to find a partner, I don't want to get married.
I can go to the movies by myself. "
If we lower the standard of mate selection because of loneliness, it will be difficult for us to attract people who are truly suitable for us.
Even when Xiao S talked about marriage on the show, he reminded unmarried women not to be brainwashed by their elders.
Or you can just find someone to marry if you are in a hurry.
"Marriage is not a joke, I'd rather be lonely than find a random one.
It's okay to be lonely occasionally, but getting married indiscriminately is a very scary thing. "
I know that everyone has more or less longings and expectations for married life.
Full children and grandchildren, family happiness, this is also the family life and fulfillment that people have pursued throughout the ages.
However, marriage is not the ultimate goal of life.
Apart from marriage, there are many choices and ways to live in life.
If two people truly love each other and their feelings can stand the test, they will be happy whether they get married or not.
But if you don't go to each other, even if you get married, marriage is just a piece of paper.
There is no guarantee of a lifetime, but it will become the shackles of feelings.
So, don't worry, don't panic, don't worry, and don't settle.
Slowly live, slowly look forward to, slowly fall in love.