Is it Over?

It can be one of the hardest things to accept that a relationship is failing. When we see the signs that something is amiss in our love life we do tend to become desperate and try to fix whatever is broken. Sometimes we do the complete opposite and ignore the problems. There are times when no matter how hard you try, nothing can bring back a relationship that is past its expiry date. It’s about knowing when it’s time to just call it quits and end things. Red flags can be easy to miss and sometimes they are so obvious but we don’t pay attention or maybe it’s because we don’t want to believe it’s true. The signs could be:

I was aware that my relationship was coming to an end and no matter how much I wanted to fix things my partner would not communicate his issues with me. He didn’t know how to bring it up without causing an argument. When it was too late for the issue to be fixed he ended things. There had been many signs but I hadn’t taken notice, or maybe I didn’t want to believe it and that happens for a lot of people. They ignore the red flags and sweep things under the run in hope that things will fix themselves. But issues need to be addressed or they burn a hole in your relationship.

Sometimes other signs are that the two of you are agreeing all the time. This might sound like a good thing but it could be you or your partner are avoiding any sort of conflict because you simply don’t care anymore. It could be that you dread them coming home and you dread having to converse with them. There are many signs that a relationship is breaking down. I’m not saying that relationships going through this can’t be brought back to life, it all depends on whether or not you want to make it work and push through the problems. It also depends on whether the two of you love each other. If you think that the relationship has taken a turn for the worst or has slowly been going downhill for some time it’s important to communicate those issues.

Relationships are complicated and require a lot of effort from both parties. You can’t go into a relationship and live happily ever after without putting in some work. If you don't think it's worth it then don’t be in a relationship. I’ve had many couples say that yes, relationships are hard but it is worth every bit of effort that they put into it and I think that’s fabulous to hear.

If you went through something like this drop a comment down below and let us know how you went about it.

Thanks for reading. Have a nice day. ❤

Originally posted on Medium