Getting Back With Your Ex

Most of us have gone back to a past lover in hopes that this time it will work out. We might go back because it’s familiar and comfortable and sometimes it does work out but for the majority, there is usually a good reason why they’re your ex. I’m sure there are a few of you who haven’t gotten back with an ex but have played around with the idea. Maybe you still love them, you might even think that the breakup with a mistake. Perhaps they broke it off with you and regret their decision. So it leads back to the question of whether it’s a good idea to get back with your ex.

Personally, getting back with my ex didn’t work out. It was actually a huge mistake to get back with him and even though I learned a lot from the second time around I now can see that he didn’t truly value me, which made me realise that I didn't value myself all that much either. If I had known my self-worth I wouldn’t have taken him back. He is a great guy but just isn’t right for me and going back to situations that you’ve outgrown is always a bad idea.

So the question is really complicated to answer because it all depends on your own situation. You need to look at things logically first and then use your emotions to guide you because if you don’t think things through and instead follow your heart you end up back at square one. In the beginning, it might feel great to be reunited with your ex but after a while problems that weren’t dealt with come back to bite you in the ass. If you’re both not willing to work on it together then what is the point of starting up a relationship again? That is why logical thinking is needed if you’re even considering getting back together.

Some Reasons it Might be a Good Idea to Get Back With an Ex

Here Are Some Reasons NOT to Get Back With Your Ex

I’ve read so many articles about this and a few have stated getting back with your ex is a good idea if one of you ended the relationship out of frustration in other areas of your life or past relationship trauma.

First of all, if you’re dealing with past traumas from a previous relationship should you really carry your baggage into something new? I say heal first, but hey who am I to tell you what to do?

Anyway, secondly if you or your partner ended the relationship out of frustration because of other things going on in life then you’re being immature and that isn’t an okay thing to do. Imagine being with someone that dumps you every time life becomes stressful. You will be walking on eggshells. It’s not how relationships should be.

Learn how to communicate and learn how to deal with stress that has nothing to do with your relationship. I know that we tend to dump our emotional crap onto those closest to us but that should never be a reason to break up with someone.

Other reasons you shouldn’t get back with an ex:

There are many more reasons I am sure of it but only you know your situations and only you know how you felt in the relationship. So you should ask yourself if it really is a good idea getting back with your ex. Will it bring you happiness? Will they add value to your life? Will you add value to theirs? Do you make them happy? Are you on the same page? There are so many things to ask yourself and each other.

But as I said before it all depends on you, your ex and what the relationship is like. Drop a comment below if you have ever gotten back with an ex and it worked out.

That’s all for now, thanks for reading.