If You Want to Be Successful, Marry to Your Best Friend

If you want to be successful in life, you should find a partner who will complement you, as well as the other half of a whole, and you can count on it.

Scientists point out that a positive partner helps you achieve your career goals.

"Among the tips I've read, designed, and promoted for dozens of authors over the last decade on how to maximize productivity and success, I've never seen anyone say you have to find a husband who will complete, it will support you and make you feel better "- Ryan Holiday

When it comes to the concept of success and its realization, it invariably proves that you live in an extremely individualistic culture, which attaches great importance to independence and self-sufficiency.

However, in their recent book, psychologists Amir Levin and Rachel Geller clearly explain why this view of relationships is completely wrong and why it is wrong even from a biological perspective. They point out that once you connect, in a sense, you create a whole.

That means when my partner is sad, I'm sad too. When he's happy, so am I. My partner's presence in my life directly affects my blood pressure, heart rate, and hormone production. So when he reacts to something, I react and I can't control it in any way.

I have become one and as a result, I am willing to do anything to make him happy. Knowing all this, Levin and Geller concluded that "mutual dependence in a relationship is a fact. It's not a choice or a preference. "

Of course, you can try not to give in to these influences, but Matt Lieberman, a professor of human biology at the University of California, believes that you will continue to succeed. He says that the human brain is "regulated" to connect to the nervous system of loved ones, and because of this, while you are in a relationship, you cannot overcome mutual dependence.

As Levin and Geller put it:

"The thirst for someone to share your life with you is part of your genetic code and practically does not depend on how much you love yourself and how full of life and fulfillment you are when you live alone. And when you find a really special person with whom you are going to spend the rest of your life, strong and not always controllable forces come into play. Completely new patterns of behavior come into play and do it, no matter how independent you are and whether you want to or not. "

But does this mean that to be happy in your relationship, you need to give up all other aspects of your life, such as your dreams and your career? Not at all. It turns out that your ability to take risks, to get what you want, and to be confident enough to aim for your goal, no matter what is generated by the knowledge you have of someone you can count on things not going the way you expect.

This is known as the addiction paradox. In other words, the more people love each other and depend on each other, the more independent and willing they are in the outside world.

People who think they don't want a personal relationship because they are supposed to "hinder their career growth" have bought the lie that love blocks the path to success when in fact it is a catalyst.

In his book "Think and Get Rich," Napoleon Hill, who has spent 25 years studying the causes of success and failure, says that in all the examples of successful marriage couples he has studied, a woman has always motivated a man to succeed and achieve. As he says about it, "behind every great man - there is a strong woman."

Here is the power of the "addiction paradox".

I don't think it will surprise you that most millionaires are not only married but they got married very early, long before they became successful. The findings of these studies by Thomas Stanley indicate that if you want to be successful in life, you need to find a partner that will complement you, as well as the other half of yours that you can rely on.

No matter what kind of personal growth seminars and conferences you go to, and how much money you spend on your development books, nothing will contribute to success and personal development more than choosing the right partner.

The statistics don't lie - people in long-term relationships live longer, are healthier and happier. In addition, married people tend to be better off financially than single people.

Even after adjusting for age, education, and other demographics, researchers claim that married people earn 10–50 percent more than single people.

And the reason for this is not that financially successful people are more likely to get married, but that a healthy and fulfilling marriage between two complementary people inevitably leads to financial success and independence.

Why? Yes, because when you connect your destiny with a person who helps and supports you, it improves you over time. They set goals for you, show you what you need to work on, and motivate you to do more than you can.

If you want to succeed, try to get rid of this false idea that you should be complete

independent of your partner and take advice from Levin and Geller instead:

"If you want to be firmly on the path to independence and happiness, find someone you can really rely on and move forward together on the path of life."