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I Cheated On My Girlfriend and She Broke Up With Me (I Cheated On My Girlfriend How Do I Fix It)

It's not right that you're sitting there thinking I cheated on my girlfriend and she broke up with me. Is it a thought that seems to be permeating your every thought? It must be tough for you. In fact I know it is. If you're in a situation where you're saying I cheated on my girlfriend how do I fix it, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Michael HamiltonPublished 2 years ago 6 min read
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You've cheated on your girlfriend who has decided you're better off going your separate ways. But, now you want to know how long you should wait before you try to get your ex back after you've cheated on her, right? There are no easy answers or quick fixes but the day after probably doesn't provide your best chance for success.

But!

Here's the really important part.

The thing you need to remember is this.

She didn't stop loving you just because you cheated on her. That one fact should help diminish the sense of urgency that is telling you that you must go back right this very minute and beg her to give you another chance.

You see, she does still love you. But! She is very hurt, angry, and confused right now. In other words, she isn't in the frame of mind to even consider a second chance. She needs time and space more than anything else. You need to give those things to her if you want to build a lasting relationship and future together. Be prepared to wait at least a couple of weeks if not a month (unless she is the one who comes to you first).

What should you do in the in between time?

Now that is an excellent question to ask. Now is the time when you start planning what you are going to do to get your ex back. This is when you plot out your strategy and decide which tactics will work best for your ex girlfriend. Here are a few to consider.

Make her Melt all Over Again

If you were together in the past the odds are good that she did have some very strong feelings for you. Even though you cheated and she may be hurt and angry those feelings are just beneath the surface.

Her love for you is just on the other side of those walls she's built to protect her heart. You can easily break through by reminding her of all the reasons she fell in love with you in the first place. It might even help you remember why you were so in love with her as well.

Make her Weak in the Knees with Flattery

Her self-esteem was crushed when you cheated on her. She began immediately comparing every lump, bump, and perceived imperfection she has (whether real or imagined) with the other woman. She believes you feel the other woman is prettier than her and that is the only reason you could possibly cheat on her.

While the truth is good in many cases, it isn't where you need to focus your energies now. Right now you need to be dedicated to reminding her of all the reasons you choose her over the other woman including how beautiful you think she is. Make her see herself through your eyes and let her know just how beautiful she is if you really want to win her back.

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back After an Affair - How To Restore Trust In Your Relationship

If you are the one who cheated in your relationship, how do you get your ex back? Is it possible? Well, most people just assume that once an affair takes place in a relationship, that it's over. I disagree with this and I'll tell you why... I believe that when both parties in a relationship are in love and willing to work towards saving the relationship, every relationship is savable. This is why in this article I'm going to talk about restoring trust in your relationship.

If you want to restore trust in your relationship, it is going to have to work on adjusting your attitude and your actions. It is possible for you to save your relationship after an affair, even if you are the one who cheated, and do to so you are going to have to start building up trust within your relationship again.

This starts with you attitude. If you are the one who had an affair, you need to change your attitude because that's what allowed you to cheat. Now, there could be something that's wrong within the core of the relationship and if so, you need to fix it.

It's important to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what it was you were looking for when you cheated. Was there a lack in intimacy in your relationship? Maybe she was letting herself slide on her looks because she was getting to comfortable. Maybe she was just too busy for you. You need to figure out why it is you strayed from your relationship.

If there was nothing wrong with your relationship and all was perfect, you wouldn't of cheated. So, how do you fix it? Well, sometimes you need to analyze yourself to find the problem. Other times you need to analyze your relationship. To restore trust in your relationship, you need to fix the core problems within the relationship and that may mean you need to go into couples counseling.

The next thing you must do is too take consistent action in solving these problems. Just talking about the problems and understanding them is not how to restore trust in your relationship. It's taking the right actions towards fixing the problems that restores trust.

One of the best ways to start restoring trust is to make a few small promises and keep them. I'm talking small things like doing the dishes, laundry, taking the trash out, cleaning the yard, etc... Just make sure you do exactly what you say you are going to. This will show her that you can start to be trusted again even though it's will small things, this is a start.

Another thing you can do is apologize (you should have already done this) more than once but do it over time, not just over and over again right after the affair. This will give your girlfriend or wife constant reassurance that you have changed. It's also important to remember that it is not going to be easy for her to just forgive your breach in trust, so you will have to be patient.

This doesn't mean that you are supposed to feel guilty about your actions for the long run either. If you are constantly feeling guilty it's going to be hard for her to feel satisfied with the new relationship you are trying to build. So just be patient with her, and most of all try to be understanding of the situation.

Lastly, as hard as it sounds, try to make the situation look positive. There was obviously some problems with your relationship before the incident or else you wouldn't have cheated. Try not to dwell on what happened, but instead look at is as an opportunity for your relationship to grow stronger and better than before.

To restore trust in your relationship is going to take time. It's going to take time, and consistent effort from both parties in the relationship but it is possible. In fact, most relationships will improve and grow stronger after an affair.

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