How to Talk About Sex With Your Partner to Improve the Relationship

Sex is not a taboo subject. We need to talk about sex, especially about issues related to this side of life.

But not everyone knows how to do it, especially since many have rooted out the taboo for discussing "forbidden topics." Each has its theme, some can't say the word "sex" or the name of the genitals out loud, and others can't talk about their fantasies. Sometimes this taboo is kept even when you talk to yourself.

When bed problems start, taboos are joined by myths of all kinds. For example, if the couple "really loves each other", then they have to understand each other half-heartedly.

They must have the same preferences. If there is a need to discuss certain misunderstandings, it means the end of love and "we no longer feel for each other."

It's just that this is not the end. But it can come true when things go awry and no compromises are made. That is why it is not the best solution to endure and pretend that everything is fine.

At the same time, many are afraid to shatter the magic around their partner, who will understand without words and will realize the most daring fantasies. They think that if you say, "Stroke me here or there," the magic will disappear. It's just that there's no magic. Can't people read the thoughts and why do it, since we have the gift of speech? You just have to use it.

Here are some recommendations for an intimate discussion.

Choose the right time

Do not approach intimate topics at the table, during sex, or in public places. Choose a time when everything in the relationship is stable and peaceful. Both must be in a good mood.

Speak with I-type statements

Avoid accusations and claims. Don't use phrases like "you don't do it right," "you must." Try to talk about your desires, what you liked: "I would like to try" and you will help me if you do "or" it saddens me when ".

Understand what you want

To explain something about yourself to someone else, you must first know yourself. It is very important to know your body well, to understand when and how to reach the peek of pleasure. The next step is to teach your partner the same thing. Don't wait until your partner understands everything, help him.

Prove that you are prone to discussion

You could predispose him to a sincere discussion by asking him what he likes best. Ask what sexual fantasies he has if you're ready to be so open. It is not necessary to talk about problems from the beginning, first, it would be good to prepare yourself morally and be prone to sincerity.

Do not hesitate to consult a specialist

If your partner is not ready to have an honest discussion, then you can call a specialist (psychologist, sexologist), who will help you understand the situation and teach the couple to talk about their intimate relationship.

But do NOT discuss the intimate aspects of the relationship with friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and other family members. This is inadmissible.

Expressing your fears, what you like, and what makes you sad is a way to a better understanding, but not the other way around. Your partner may grind just like you, but he or she may not be able to start a conversation.

It may even happen that you both want the same thing, but you are afraid to tell each other your wishes.

Talking about sex with your partner, especially about what you want after sex, is a real art. These discussions are very important because sex greatly influences the quality of life. As a result, you will be able to build a strong emotional and psychological relationship with your partner.