How to Improve Your Relationship

One day while I was out running errands I passed by a couple who was having a disagreement in the aisle I was in. I overheard what was said but when I made it back home I sat back and asked, “Do I treat and react like that in my relationships”? I know no one is prefect and sometimes we let our anger overpower our actions without thinking about who’s around, who hears you, and what we let come out of our mouths. My overthinking bought me to write down ways people could improve and easily deescalate a situation without leaving each person feeling sad, upset, hurt, unheard, and misunderstood.

The way you talk to each other

Assuring that your tone does not come off the wrong way even when you are upset is important. Handling each situation by trying to understand the other person and where they are coming from can have a positive outcome. If you are just there to get your points across and place blame, how exactly is that helping you guys come to a middle ground? Taking the time to let the other person speak and express themselves without placing blame and vice versa will bring forth appreciate, feeling heard, ad understood.

Clear Communication

How many of you are still guilty of wanting someone you are speaking with to just get what you are thinking and wanting. If this is you, you are causing a communication block. It is important that you know what you want yourself so that you can clearly communicate that.

Understanding

No one is better than the next person, therefore, judging others and situations only show character of yourself. Listen and take in what is being told, place yourself in their shoes and ask yourself how you would take it if someone was to say what you are going to.

Non-controlling

Knowing you cannot control others, their actions and situations is the start to bettering your relationships. When you are not trying to control others and situations and focus on yourself and thing you could be doing you create a healthy vision of yourself. You become less nagging and negative to the other person and force them to face what they do and say, hopefully, fixed it.

Control over your emotions

Think before you react. This may seem simple but many people struggle with this “oh so simple” act. Thinking and reviewing your emotions gives you the chance to question why you really feel the way you do and hopefully redirect your response in a better way. When you respond in a more insightful way to your emotions towards yourself and others it decreases the chance of hurting the situation, the other person, and yourself.

Assuming

This is the classic, if you do not have complete proof on what you are assuming it is probably better to not do so at all. As the old saying goes, Assuming only makes an ass out you and me. Ass-u-me.

Remember to breathe at least three times when you notice you are upset or getting there. After your breathing stay calm and become aware of your emotions, then if you feel like you still need to react, do it in a calm matter. Here is a challenge for you, practice these tips within all of your relationships for a month and see if things improve. If so, encourage others in your life to do take the challenge and use it to improve your relationships together. Reminder, this is something you will always have to be aware of and it takes time to get a hang of so stay patient with yourself and others.