How to Find Yourself After a Breakup

Tips for Reclaiming Yourself After a Breakup

Do you feel like you can’t go on without the person you love or are you so angry at them that you can’t see straight? Are you stuck in a deep pit of depression or grief, anger or frustration that a significant relationship is ending or has ended? Does your heart feel so crushed, deflated and confused that you are having a hard time even getting out of bed and moving into your days?

Ending a long term relationship where you have invested yourself heavily on all levels is often one of the biggest transformational opportunities one can have. When you are in the hell of it, it feels in moments like you’d rather not live than find your way out of the hole in your heart. Change can be hard no doubt, so here are just a few reminders to find your way back to vitality!

Reclaim Your SELF!

When we are in a one on one “committed” relationship all the time, we often give away part of our own time and many of our own needs. As women, we cater first to others, it’s our natural instinct as mothers and caregivers.

So when you are single, guess what? You can give ALL that love, time, energy and attention you normally would give to your partner, to YOURSELF! Reclaiming yourself means that life is totally on your own terms again. You can do anything you want to without any need to “check in” about it. Reclaiming yourself means cultivating an honest and strong relationship with yourself, and exploring all the little nooks and crannies of your desires to find out what really makes you tick and who is now living in your skin!

Feel what is Real & Make the Commitment to find and redefine YOURSELF!

Making a commitment to find yourself in this time of transition is one of the biggest gifts that you can give yourself. Let the loneliness turn into reverence for solitude and space. Let the tears show you what it is you’ve been hiding from yourself by giving so much of your energy to someone else. Let the aching run through you and know that you will not die, but that you are being reborn into something more beautiful than you could have been if you had stayed in that place. Now you get to redefine yourself however you choose.

Honor the Space as Your Ally

Most importantly, don’t rush to fill up the space that your lost love has left. Give it room to breathe! It is your cocoon right now and out of it your most magnificent self can be born if you allow yourself to ripen through the pain and surrender to giving yourself the love you need from your own self!

Let the love of your own heart fill you back up and you may indeed find that you can be just as happy, if not MORE happy than you ever were by creating a life that serves, nurtures and allows you to be the fullness of who you are!

Let your friends comfort and hold you in the transition, and all of your relationships will deepen. Rather than just one deep relationship with one person, you will find that you have several deepening connections and people to share your love and life with.

The more love in your life, the more beautiful you become and the more ready you are to attract a more beautiful relationship that will never again leave you asking, “How can I survive without him?”

How is that possible? Because once you’ve reclaimed yourself and your own passions and power, you will know that you are your own woman and your own source of all that you need to be fulfilled, survive and yes, THRIVE!

Author Info:

The founder of “Wild & Wise Lifestyle Design” and the “Dream it! Live it! Masterpiece Life Program, Author, life coach and artist, Cheri Shanti Lunn offers retreats and programs that empower individuals to maximize their personal potential through self development work, spiritual teachings, creativity, self inquiry, time in nature and expressive arts therapies.

To contact Cheri or for more information: go to http://www.cherishanti.com