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How to Become a (More) Independent Woman

Are you independent?

By Bryan HamptonPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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How to Become a (More) Independent Woman
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We talk more and more about strong, independent women, but what exactly does that mean? First of all, an independent woman is not only financially stable but also emotionally stable.

This means that he does not show too much emotional dependence on those close to him, even those he loves.

Second, an independent woman is a woman who knows and respects herself, assumes her flaws, and tries, within reason, to continually improve her behavior and thinking.

Last but not least, the independent woman knows how to love, but chooses to cultivate healthy relationships and imposes certain standards in relationships with others, knowing how to be alone. If you are also looking to become such a woman, here are some tips that will help you grow in this regard.

Learn to be alone

Even if you are an extroverted person, it is important to learn to enjoy your own company. If you are used to being around others and can't spend half a day alone without getting bored, you may be wondering if you are constantly feeling the need for the attention of others.

This behavior can be categorized as codependent, and it can be tiring for some people, even those close to you. Learn to cultivate your passions and enjoy time with yourself.

Manage your own money

It's never too late for a few financial education lessons. There are free online tutorials, books, and courses on the subject. It is important to know how to manage your budget so that you become financially independent and live not only from one salary to another but also to be able to rely on some savings in case of a crisis.

Pamper yourself

Don't expect flowers and gifts just from your life partner. Of course, these are admirable gestures, but from time to time you should pamper yourself.

That can mean anything from a day at the spa to a fabulous ring you've been thinking about for months. Such an attitude towards yourself is even more important if you are not yet a couple because it helps you set certain standards.

Change your vocabulary

Of all the conversations you'll ever have in your entire life, the most important ones are the ones you have with yourself, so be careful how you talk. If you find that you are often too critical or harsh on yourself, ask yourself if you would talk to another person you love.

Most likely the answer is no, so change the vocabulary you use in discussions with yourself. Give up "you're not good at anything", "I'm incompetent" or "I'm not a good mother/daughter/friend". It is important to evaluate yourself correctly, but it is important to show self-confidence, love, and generosity.

Understand what you want

The society too often tells us what we should want, do, or become, and this can often lead to unhealed wounds.

In a delicate exercise in self-knowledge, learn to recognize what you want and what your values ​​are. Only in this way will you be able to gain peace, balance, and control over your own life.

Be honest

Doing something just for the sake of others and feeling frustrated later does not mean that you are a good person, but rather that it can lead to frustrations that can become overwhelming. Learn to be honest with yourself and others, expressing what you think in any situation.

If you do not want to go to a certain place or do some activities with your partner or friends, it is okay to say so politely and respectfully. Most likely, the consequences will not be as catastrophic as you imagine, and those who know and love you will not change their opinion of you or their feelings.

Being an independent woman can be a challenge, but it is also a way to get to know yourself better, find balance, and build more sincere and lasting relationships.

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