How to Be a Pleasant Person Part 2

Continuing directly from where we left off in the previous article, I will proceed with giving the rest of the list of pleasing personality characteristics.

Note that as the list goes on the traits become more difficult to cultivate and to understand how to use them to your advantage correctly.

13. Appropriateness of Words Used

This trait is directly correlated with 6 and 11, frankness and tactfulness of manner and speech respectively, and summarizes the speech part of the pleasing personality.

Putting it simply, frankness and tactfulness are the “brains” of the speaking operation while using the appropriate words is the “appearance”. How you dress up your way of talking with your language plays a big role in how the other person will perceive what you say.

To seem pleasant, you have to use the right words to convey what you are feeling and thinking while minimizing the use of slang or puns to get the message across in the most understandable way possible.

14. Controlled Enthusiasm

This is a big one. It’s one of the most hidden traits that’s pretty hard to land on correctly. Controlling your enthusiasm helps you get perceived as a balanced person that is at peace with the decisions and options in front of them.

Now, this goes in both ways. You can’t seem overly excited about everything that happens in your life, nor overly dissatisfied. This isn’t helping in your self-development and accomplishing your tasks in any good way too.

Being ecstatic might make people question whether you truly like anything as well as drain their enthusiasm about something. On the other hand, being disappointed consistently makes people feel negatively around you since the mood and atmosphere gets darker easily.

So to become pleasant try to find the balance between these 2 edges.

15. Clean Sportsmanship

This is relatively easy to comprehend in both what you need to do and the reasoning behind it. In simpler terms, don’t be a sore loser.

Well, this might seem hard for some people, or in some specific situations, it might be impossible to accomplish.

However, to become a pleasant person you can’t seem like someone that can’t accept defeat. It derives the pleasure and excitement of winning for the other party.

16. Common Courtesy

Courtesy is an obvious trait to have to seem pleasant that might be hard to pull off given certain scenarios.

Good manners go a long way towards making people like you. But be careful not to be selectively kind and civil; this will inevitably backfire since you won’t seem trustworthy.

Being polite towards people honestly and genuinely increases the chances of being conceived as a pleasant human.

17. Appropriate Adornment

It can seem odd at first glance, but knowing how to suit up yourself depending on the task is a characteristic of a pleasant person.

That’s because it will mean that you can read the atmosphere well and earn a good position on someone’s mind for that.

No one would want to be in a fancy restaurant for a business meeting with a corporate manager and see the other party dressed up in their gym clothes.

18. Showmanship

To define this characteristic in a better way, it’s the art of knowing what to do to attract people to you.

Of course, this is extremely hard to pull off since you have to combine most of the 24 traits in a specific way that catches the attention of the other party and makes them be drawn to you.

Given this fact, you have to be good at reading people to accomplish such a feat; meaning that it’s important to understand how psychology, your own, and other people’s minds work.

19. The Habit of Going the Extra Mile

This is a personal favorite that’s also related to trait number 9, sincerity of purpose. Going the extra mile for other people means trying to help others regardless of whether you gain the exact proportion of what you give.

Don’t get me wrong; it’s important to know your limits and take what you provide to other people for every relationship to work out.

Sometimes though, it might be hard to take back the equivalent of what you gave, at least at that time. Nevertheless, the universe tends to return what it is given.

When people see you trying much to assist others in any way possible without having an ulterior motive (here the correlation of sincerity of purpose is appearing) makes you more pleasant in their eyes.

20. Temperance

Temperance is associated a bit with controlling your enthusiasm, though it covers a wider field. It’s about having clear limits in every aspect of your life; be it your diet, what you say and do, e.t.c.

Having a balanced life can make you a happier person, more fulfilled, and motivated in life; things that in turn will create a pleasant aura around you.

Everything that exceeds the boundary of moderation has an unstable foundation.

- Seneca

21. Patience

Another important characteristic to possess to become a pleasant person is that of having patience in your life. It may be hard to nurture, but it’s a trait that assists both you in your life and in seeming more likable.

This helps especially well in getting along with people because someone with patience understands others and will sympathize and empathize with them depending on the occasion.

22. Gracefulness in Posture

Being graceful in how you are moving and carrying your body is a sly trait that isn’t getting much attention in relevant articles. It might not be one of the vital ones, but it’s nonetheless something that can make or break the consistency of how you speak and act.

Imagine seeing someone coming to you with a smile on their face while having their arms, face, and gaze down as well as moving slowly by dragging their feet on the floor.

Isn’t this something that will make you question their whole attitude?

To seem pleasant, it’s good to make confident moves that accompany the way you talk and the positive aura you possess naturally.

23. Humility

Closing the sincerity and honesty cycle, humility is the glue that sticks together sincerity of purpose and the habit of going the extra mile.

Humility is described accurately as being sincerely modest in your actions and way of speaking. It’s something hard to cultivate because it mainly appears depending on your various experiences in life and way of growth.

When you don’t brag about your accomplishments, don’t care to show off, and give proper attention to other people’s wins in life rather than your own you become a person that many will want to stick around with.

24. Personal Magnetism

This is connected a lot to romantic relationships. The personal magnetism characteristic is best defined as the physical attraction of other people to you, depending purely on the inborn magnetism or aura surrounding you.

Developing this kind of trait is extremely hard since it’s mostly created from the moment you are born and the early stages of your raise from your parents.

Nevertheless, growing your confidence and every single other trait we have covered is a surefire way to make your inner magnetism bloom.

Closing Thoughts

Cultivating a pleasing personality might seem like a hustle given the fact that it requires a lot of characteristics to become actualized and be consistent enough to get most people on your side.

It’s an important concept to be knowledgeable of, provided you are looking for ways in developing all forms of relationships you are building with other people.

Regardless, just remember that not a single one of these traits needs to be forced into you. At the end of the day, the best tip to become a more pleasant human is to just be yourself and do what you honestly and sincerely feel like.

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