How to Be a Pleasant Person Part 1

Napoleon Hill studied a lot about the principles of success and because of that, he learned a whole variety of other things that not only help in becoming successful in life but in leading a blissful one as well.

His infamous book, “Success Habits”, is a compiled footage of his radio speeches at Missouri in written form.

In two of his speeches, he analyzed in a very instructive way the 24 most important traits to cultivate to get regarded as a pleasing personality. In this part, we will cover the first 12.

1. Positive Mental Attitude

First and foremost on the list, having a positive mental attitude is a go-to tip for the rest to work out; and generally for everything in life to work out.

What we think we will attract its physical counterpart in our lives. Think of blessings and this will help you in living your life in a way that will return to you the equivalent of these.

A positive mental attitude is assisting you in deciding and acting in such a way that you will be able to see and grasp the opportunities out there and hence lead a happier and more fulfilling life.

What is best about this attitude though is that it's contagious. People seeing you being positive will unavoidably make them perceive you favorably and will also make them feel that positive energy in their lives.

2. Flexibility

Being flexible in your life is very important since it’s a trait that is needed to deal with your problems satisfactorily.

The term flexibility is meant to describe the fact that you know yourself, what you can and cannot do, and thus, how to adapt to any situation in your life.

Of course, other people viewing you as flexible will make them believe that you are a great problem solver, something that is a 100% attractive quality for both friends and lovers.

3. Pleasing Tone of Voice

Having a pleasant tone of voice provides the other party with a calming effect; one that aids them in getting assurance as well as being at peace in your presence.

If you have felt this way before about another human, you will most certainly know how pleasing and satisfying is their company because of that.

4. Open-Mindedness

One of the greatest feelings out there is having a conversation with another person you resonate with. When that is true you enter a state in which you both learn things and invalidate your standing in life.

Open-Mindedness helps a ton with that. If you are open-minded as a person you won’t judge the other party nor hold prejudices. Moreover, you will be intrigued to listen to them and not care if you lead the conversation.

These are imperative things that help a lot in the discussions you hold; either when you get to know someone or when conversing, being open-minded will make the other person regard you as a pleasing person to discuss with.

5. Keen Sense of Humor

A characteristic that can ease the negative tension and lighten up the mood in every situation is by having a good laugh.

This is the most obvious trait to possess on the list. When you make other people laugh, especially with self-deprecating humor, you instill in them positive feelings.

And of course, people feeling positively around you will help a lot in perceiving you as a pleasing person, be it for friendly or loving company.

6. Frankness of Manner & Speech

This is also one of the more obvious ones. What is meant by the term frankness of manner is that of thinking before speaking and acting.

If you pay attention to the other person you will be able to understand in a very good percentage what drives them mad, what do they dislike, and of course, what do they like.

By knowing these things and by having the patience to think things through before you speak or act, you will avoid the different situations that can make people feel negative emotions.

7. Pleasing Facial Expression

Having a pleasing facial expression accompanying them goes along well with the pleasing tone of voice and the keen sense of humor.

Facial expressions that can be considered pleasing are smiling, looking at others with a soothing gaze, looking at them directly, and nodding when they are talking.

In general, having a relaxed face that can create a calming environment for anyone that shares the same space with you can make you seem more pleasing.

8. Keen Sense of Justice

Justice. Now that is rather heavy and hard to analyze words properly. It’s something that we all can sense, but it’s connected purely to the values we hold within ourselves.

Two different things can lead you in becoming more pleasing through your sense of justice; one is by making others believe that you are a “fighter” for the greater good and the other is by having the same important values with them.

The first is a generalized concept of the sense of justice in regards to some things being accepted and beloved by a broader population.

For example, other people seeing you get involved in charities and help people that they feel are in a weaker position than you is considered kind and therefore makes you seem more pleasing.

The second part consists of believing and holding dear the same values as another person. This helps in building rapport, something that can make other people like you more.

For instance, if both of you dislike seeing a human getting mistreated and want to do something about it, can make the other person feel that you share a deeper connection with them judging by the fact that you feel the same emotions.

9. Sincerity of Purpose

Being sincere and kind is one of the most attractive traits one can possess. This goes a long way into building this personality and making people like you more.

Showing through both your words and actions that you aren’t trying to get ahead or take advantage of the other person, but rather that you are sincere, can help in building trust and thus make people be at ease with you.

Trying to seem kind and considerate to the other person is a top-tier trait to get recognized as a pleasing person.

10. Versatility

Being versatile means having a wide range of knowledge regarding many different subjects. Be careful though, it does not by any means refer to being a know-it-all person; this doesn’t strike well with others.

Having versatility as a trait means that you aren’t focused on yourself and what only you find attractive. It shows that you are interested in others, what are their likings, and not just what is pleasing to you.

Seeming as someone that cares about stuff other than themself is a defining characteristic of a pleasing personality.

11. Tactfulness in Manner & Speech

Being careful about what you say and do is one thing, but being considerate of how you say it and act is another.

These are two different things that have the same goal; being mindful of how you speak to another human can help you in avoiding situations that they dislike and be regarded as more thoughtful of them.

And of course, if other people think that you are considerate of them and don’t make things harder for them is quite helpful for becoming more pleasing.

12. Promptness of Decision Making

The last tip in the first part is about one characteristic that can draw people near you with more ease; confidence.

Having promptness means that you are sure of yourself and not afraid of the consequences but rather you see them as a learning opportunity.

This will make others think that you are a confident person that knows the limits on what they should or should not do.

Confidence is a pleasing personality trait because it gives the other party the feeling that you are a good problem solver that tackles life’s difficulties in an assured and efficient manner.

Conclusion

The list doesn’t stop here, so be sure to catch the second piece that’s gonna be published soon with the rest of the 24 total personality traits.

These 12 will be more niched down though and harder to grow and implement in your daily life.

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