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How To Apologize To Your Husband After A Fight (How To Reconcile With Your Husband After A Fight)

Isn't it frustrating that you have to spend your time trying to figure out how to apologize to your husband after a fight, when it seems like everyone else is walking around happy and in perfect little marriages. This article will show you how to reconcile with your husband after a fight.

By Ron CollinsPublished 2 years ago 5 min read

Many times couples argue and end up saying things to each other that really hurt. Then they start wondering how to apologize because they never really meant the words that were uttered. They were said in the heat of the moment. Apologizing after a bad argument can be uncomfortable. Sometimes, a person just apologizes for the sake of doing it and it is very clear that he or she is not really sincere about the apology.

It is important to remember that when you are apologizing, it has to be a conscious effort and careful so that you and your partner can actually let go of the pain and move forward. While it is necessary to apologize and say sorry, it does not hurt to take some time to think about the entire matter first. This gives people time to realize that being with their partner is more important than words that were said or the fight that took place. This way the apology comes from the heart and it is genuine.

When you are apologizing, make sure you also take your share of the blame instead of piling it all on your partner. If you think you over-reacted, then acknowledge it. Acknowledging your mistake does not mean that you were the one who started the fight or that you are the one who is always in the wrong. It just means that you are letting your partner know that you regret what you said or did and you are being honest about the entire episode. This will prove that you are being sincerely about your apology.

Once you have apologized from the heart, take time to sit with your partner and talk about things. It is important that you look for ways to re-connect with your partner. It could be that you and your partner will now take specific steps in certain situations so that the incident does not repeat. Make sure that whatever you have decided together, you both stick to it.

Although it is not easy to apologize and acknowledge your mistakes, it is an important part of any relationship, especially if you want to have a close and secure relationship.

5 Tips to Get You Back on Track With Your Husband After a Fight

Most people think that arguments, disagreements and outright fights are always a bad thing. Learn to see them as necessary evils to any relationship that can be used to clear the air. The fighting is not as important as the "making up" process. Learn to treasure the "making up" process as it has a tendency to help you reconnect and reconfirm your relationship to each other.

Here are 5 tips to help minimize the damage done from a fight or argument and help you get your relationship back on track.

1. You both go into "time out" to let your tempers cool.

Okay, it is back to kindergarten where you learned some of your most valuable lessons. When tempers flared between students, they were both put into "time out." It works equally well for full-grown adults in relationships.

This cooling off period will allow both of you to get out of the battle zone before an all out war takes place. Giving each other some time and space will allow the both of you to see how silly it all really is and helps to keep it from escalating further. You both might get a new perspective on the situation.

2. Learn to forgive first.

If you plan to eventually forgive your husband and not kick him to the curb, learn to forgive sooner rather than later. It makes no sense to hold a grudge, pouting, screaming and kicking only to later regret the whole incident. Lick your wounds, stop the battle and forgive as soon as possible. Now is the best time to get back on track rather than weeks or months from now when more damage is done.

3. Take responsibility for your part in the fight.

As you have heard before, it takes two to tango so stop blaming your husband for everything. You do not always have to be "right," so give up the notion and realize you are not. Admit that you both could be "right" and just looking at the situation from different views. You might want to take a good hard look at this one because you might both be "wrong."

4. Learn to apologize for what you have done and learn from the experience.

You may have heard it before, but here it is again. "Love does really mean having to say you are sorry." Learn to look at the situation to see how it could have been handled better, if it should ever arise again. If you said mean and nasty things in anger, then get past your ego and say you are sorry. Learn to watch your words more carefully next go round and not make the same mistake. Make it a habit to say what you mean and mean what you say without being mean about it.

5. So you overreacted.

So you had a knock down drag out. You pitched his golf clubs, clothes and underwear out on the street for the neighbors to see, not only that but you broke a few dishes and overturned the furniture. As bad as this sounds, it happens but that does not necessarily put an end to the relationship. Apologize meaningfully, admit you "overreacted" to say the least and make the "making up" something he will never forget. Most men will not admit it but sometimes the "making up" is so good, the fight was actually worth it but do not chance it as the next time may be "the end."

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