Hiding From Love to Protect Me From Suffering

• Do you often judge yourself harshly, being your fiercest critic?

• Is it difficult for you to ask others for help when you can't solve certain problems on your own?

• Do you think that no one knows you and does not understand you?

• Do you pretend that everything is ok when something irritates or bothers you?

• You don't know how to accept a refusal and that's why you avoid asking someone for something?

• Are you always trying to assert yourself and impose yourself?

• Even if you feel affection for someone, you refuse to express it, do you even pretend it doesn't exist?

• In situations where you feel criticized, do you retreat into your shell?

• Do you spend more time on your work than your loved ones?

• Are you used to punishing your life partner without talking to him about your mistake?

• Are you suspicious of people who treat you well?

• You rarely have time to call your loved ones away from you?

• Is it hard for you to kiss and caress those you love?

• When someone hurts you, do you behave as if nothing had happened?

If you answered yes to some of these questions, then read the lines of an article about love that suits you. On the other hand, if you haven't found yourself in one, then let me be skeptical and not believe you. Or maybe some people are emotionally free. Congratulations!

Why do we hide from others?

Love is a sublime, rewarding, and uplifting feeling. We are talking about something that we all need to be happy about. I wonder, then, what causes us sometimes to withdraw from feeling and experiencing love in all its splendor?

What is it about the complexity of the human being that urges us to build walls around love, building a real emotional prison in which to hide from others? Hidden behind the walls, it is impossible for us to manifest our potential love from ourselves, but also to receive the much-dreamed affection. I invite you to look together for the answer to these questions.

Does love mean suffering?

When we walk in this world, as babies, we accept love unconditionally, enjoying it in all its aspects without saturating ourselves. We have full confidence in love.

Gradually, in our lives, we experienced situations in which we offered affection and were criticized, rejected, or punished. Whenever this happened, we associated this negative feeling with the love offered, and thus, our availability for love diminished little by little. Thus, in adulthood, what we feel when it comes to love is FEAR.

We do not allow love to take hold in our lives because we fear that the day will come when we will lose it and suffer again. The unconscious mechanism translates as follows: "Because I associate love with suffering, to protect myself from suffering, I also protect myself from love!"

It is said that our heart is innocent and sensitive. For this reason, she needs something to protect her from the adversities of life. And who would be better suited for this mission, if not the human mind?

The stronger and more attentive the mind is in this mission, the more blows the heart has received. I repeat, my heart was pounding, she was not the one who struck! Then why is she locked up? Why so much effort to build high and thick walls around it. All she did was love. Let's move on in search of answers!

True love involves giving love without expecting to receive anything in return. To love is a wonderful thing. Problems arise when you expect the other person to behave in a certain way, to meet certain conditions, or to respond affirmatively to your love.

Naturally, our expectations are not always met, so the love decreases in intensity or even disappears. You will feel hurt. Therefore, suffering does not occur when you love, but when you no longer love. When love is blocked in its smooth and natural flow, we feel this blockage as painful.

When we truly love, it is important to offer love, to share love, to give love… without asking for anything in return. Love is not an everyday transaction. It is the bridge to the most intense human force, the Self, our spiritual center. This causes us to experience intense feelings.

Their interruption is felt in an extremely painful way. It is our responsibility to transform love into a harmonious inner state and free from the walls erected with so much effort.