Happiness Is By You
You make your happiness
At this point in my life, I have no clue about the single life because I have not been single in nearly 40 years. Relationships are part of human existence, and we need them to sustain our lives and well-being. Whether you are single, married, or other,
it is very important to have social and intimate connections. Not all relationships are fantastic, perfect, stable, or otherwise, but it is a relationship. Let’s talk about the Institution of Marriage. That relationship is the one that is most prevalent in our lives, and the most difficult. I say it is difficult because it starts with emotions, romance, and eventually feelings of love. Then the thoughts of spending the rest of your life with someone come into play because we are feeling blissful, happy, and excited about sharing a life together. Have we thought about the possibilities and challenges that will come after you say, “I do?” I do, means a promise of commitment, loyalty, honesty, and learning more about your life partner and vice versa. You and your mate will face many obstacles that come with saying those two little “I do”. Marriage is pretty in the church, and joyful at the reception. The real deal comes after you’ve been husband and wife for some time. Can you share yourself with another person day in and day out? Before you say those two little words “I do,” just know that you are saying, you have committed yourself to a life of happiness, disappointments, sorrows, financial woes, sickness, health and much more.
To say, I do is more than a piece of paper, a license of unity, but a life of blissful potentials and undetermined challenges. I know you hung in there waiting for the “vows of love” moment with accepting your engagement ring. “What a wonderful moment”. Well, I don’t mean to rain on your parade, but with all that waiting have you thought about that marriage relationship? How about now being open to all the challenges that being in love brings that can you plow through the unblissful moments?
In my own marriage for instance, I take things as they come. My spouse and I have been married for 4 years and we are teaching each other daily. When I learn something new, I am not surprised, because being in a relationship comes with many challenges and virgin problems. When I say virgin problems it is something that you have never dealt with in your marriage. It’s new, and you must face that problem. Hopefully, the communication between you and your spouse is sound, and you can discuss the problem. If you are having communication issues, then the problem may be more difficult to discuss because of the lack of communication taking place in the marriage. If you take a moment to listen to one another, perhaps instead of not dealing with the situation, you can take the time and see if you can work things out by talking to and not at one another. Then a shouting match doesn’t take place. Marriage is not a paper doll cut out. It is a life filled with the things you make happen. If you want happiness; you must work on happiness. It is a give and take situation.
For those who want to remain in their relationships, working out the problems is the key to finding happiness, love, understanding, and so much more. You are your happiness, the two of you can find a middle ground to make it work for the good of your relationships and so much more.
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By Jeanette Cepeda3 years ago in Proof
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