Give yourself security in an uneasy world

If you say the word "safety" alone, the first thing that comes to mind is something like "traffic safety", "water safety", "financial security " and other categories. If the "security" behind, and then adorned with a "sense" of the word tail, oh, that's very different. As the name implies, security is a feeling that is closely linked to the human heart. If "security" refers mainly to the external environment, "security" is an invisible atmosphere that spreads from the inside out.

So, what is the essence of security? It means that a person has a stable inner world and a firm sense of fearlessness in social interactions.

To discuss fearlessness, let's first talk about what we are afraid of. I guess this unsettling and even heart-breaking feeling is not new to everyone, and everyone can cite many categories.

Fear of the dark. Fear of the dark is a collective inheritance in the genes of humans passed down from ancient times. In the dark, a person's vision will lose its function, can not see whether fierce animals are lurking near, can not see whether the surrounding environment is safe, can not see if there is danger, whether companions can come to the aid, the next of kin is not able to escape unharmed ...... in the dark, people are thrown into loneliness and fear. Therefore, the word black is extended as hidden and illegal, sinful and vicious, such as black hands, black heart, black hole, and underworld ......

Fear of loud noises. The lightning and thunder of nature represent unknowable anger and punishment. Fear of wolves, insects, tigers and panthers, fear of snakes and scorpions, fear of fangs and sharp claws, fear of broomsticks and solar and lunar eclipses, fear of hurricanes and torrential rains drought, and locusts ...... tiny human beings are well aware of their vulnerability and unbearable, irresistible to nature, only deeply insecure.

We are also afraid of another race because there are sudden wars and brutal killings. We are also afraid of plagues, floods, the collapse of the sky and the earth, cold and heat, and all-natural and man-made disasters that make us feel uncomfortable. Fear of bullies, fear of bandits, fear of intrigue, fear of the desperate collapse of the country, and the seeds of death.

All of these things, and so on. Generations of fear are afraid of justification.

Appropriate insecurity is the necessary armor. Be prepared for a rainy day, but also the best strategy for survival. Security senses that we can not be separated from the bodyguard, the key is to be afraid of justified, moderate, and appropriate responses. If everywhere, such as a bird of prey every day, will greatly erode our sense of well-being, the cocoon is not worth the loss.

The proper sense of security, how does it look like?

You can see it in secure people. Their gaze is settled and they don't glance east and west without a reason. They will calmly look straight into your eyes so that you can also look into his eyes. He will not use the corners of his eyes to squint, and sound to hide the real target of observation. His body is straight, neither exaggeratedly shrugging his shoulders and shaking his head nor shrinking his form in shame. Their fingers are quiet and do not open and close unconsciously as if they are ready to seize every opportunity without relaxation. Their faces are calm, neither flattering smiles nor bluffing intimidation. Their limbs are coordinated and agile, neither trembling quickly nor stiffening idly. They can exercise the most basic judgment in the event of an accident, rather than just screaming in fear. They can judge the situation and make appropriate choices in times of danger. They will help vigorously when they should be benevolent. In the time of deception, will be an emergency stop loss to learn a lesson and will not lose the basic confidence in the world from now on ...... in the final face of the end of life, they will be calm and peaceful.

In short, a secure person, like a small star hanging in the sky, will automatically continue to emit a warm light, both to light themselves and to light others. Let the world have a little more warmth, a little more light.

A person with a poor sense of security will also hang phase. They will have ice lurking in the depths of their eyes, and their gaze is often hesitant and timid. They are also prone to cold hands and feet or more than a little fever, because a weak heart cannot transport blood to the far end of the body in the right way, and is either too weak or too hyperactive. They often oscillate between the poles of gullibility and suspicion, and the cycle repeats itself. They are prone to pessimism and disappointment, and their state of mind is like a yellow leaf in late autumn, greatly influenced by the outside world. Insignificant small storms can cause them to sway or drift, often ending up alone and weak.

Insecure people, in interpersonal relationships, are really difficult. They can easily fall into extreme powerlessness difficult to extricate themselves. Happy times, do not dare to wantonly wander to indulge in a laugh, the moment of grief, determined that can never get away. Despair has become the main theme of their lives, and it is difficult to have the light burst out of the dark background.

They also think of redemption. But the hope of finding security is wrongly placed on others.

Insecure girls are always hoping for a guy's shoulder that they can lean their entire body and spirit on, not knowing how heavy the weight of a lifetime is and that if the other person is not a masochist, they will run away or collapse together.

Insecure employees, will follow the old ways of lack creativity, they just want to keep their jobs, daily look around to find out the news, and all personnel changes are sensitive and suspicious and silent.

Insecure people do the boss, will not smile, harsh and cold, he is unrealistic to ask all the people with their own one heart and one mind, decision making when looking ahead and fearful, exhaustive only fear of sleepless nights.

Security can not be seen and touched, but like the air omnipresent around us, deeply affect our smile, knit, and move. If there is a lack of security, happiness not only comes late but also does not enter through the door.

The world is always restless and unsettled. In the history of human evolution, there has never been a time of absolute security. Therefore, the world's unrest is a constant. How to find your security in this unsettled world is a necessary lesson for everyone's life. If you finish this lesson early and get a good score, you will be able to spend your life more properly and peacefully. No one can say that people with a sense of security will suffer less trauma and suffering than others, even God can not guarantee this. But I dare say that people with a sense of security can respond more calmly after suffering from injuries and hardships, more, fortunately, escape from the clutches of bad luck, more quickly recover from cruelty, and more effectively heal their wounds. Even if you want to leave a heavy scar, you can cover it with a soft fabric, so you won't have to show it or itch and numb it on a rainy day.

Maslow believes that security is the most important factor in determining mental health, and the first of his criteria for mental health is that individuals should "feel adequately secure".

Where does security come from?

In essence, it is the imprint of each of us from our history. This "we" contains not only our history but also the common history of humanity. However, each person's history, in times when he or she cannot write it, is written for us by others. An insecure childhood cannot gift us with an abundance of security. Therefore, people who feel very insecure deserve sympathy and understanding in the first place.

However, we should not stay in childhood forever; human beings have also come out of the wilderness of Africa and established a high level of civilization. Security is not a static thing, it is like a plant, even if growing in poor soil, as long as the hard work of watering, fertilizing, and catching insects, can also be deep roots and leaves swaying. Only, you put extra effort to be a tireless gardener of your sense of security.

True security can only come from one place, and that is within us. If there is any heart baby in this world, security is red and blue treasure plus diamond, metal wire plus high-tech ...... together weave into noble hard, and flexible heart protection armor.