friendly force

The warmth released by kindness is more powerful than toughness​​

One day, the sun and the wind were arguing about who was more powerful than the other. Feng said: "Look at the old man in the coat below, I bet I can make him take off his coat faster than you!" After finishing speaking, he blew hard on the old man, trying to blow off the old man's coat. But the more it blew, the tighter the old man wrapped his coat. Later, the wind got tired and didn't have the strength to blow anymore. At this time, the sun came out from behind the clouds and spread the warm sunlight on the old man. It didn't take long for the old man to wipe his sweat and take off his coat. The sun smiled and said to the wind: "Actually, the warmth released by friendliness is more powerful than toughness."

Facing the same thing and treating it with two different attitudes, the result will be completely different. The solar energy can make the old man take off his coat faster than the wind, which shows that a friendly attitude can warm people's hearts more, and then move the other party to gradually change his hostile thoughts. This is beyond the reach of tough actions such as blindly roaring and violently attacking. A lot of times, tackling a problem with toughness often leads to nothing, but replacing it with kindness will end up being a pleasant surprise.

During a congressional election, the 25th President of the United States, William McKinley, was often followed by a reporter. Because the man worked for a newspaper that disagreed with McKinley's politics, he often published stories against him. McKinley was very annoyed at this man, but he couldn't help secretly "admiring" his persistence in attacking him.​​

One day, McKinley took a carriage to a nearby town to give a speech. The weather was unusually gloomy and cold, and McKinley didn't go far before he heard a familiar coughing sound from behind. Looking back, it turned out that it was the reporter who was suffering from a cold and was wearing thin clothes, following him in a shabby carriage. McKinley told the driver to stop, got out of the car, and walked to the reporter, saying, "Young man, get off your seat." The reporter got out of the car, thinking that it was time for this political enemy to take revenge. "Here," McKinley took off his overcoat and handed it to the reporter. "Put this overcoat on and get in my carriage." "But, Mr. McKinley," said the reporter rather surprised, "I think you probably don't know who I am. I have been chasing after you in this campaign. Every time you give a speech, I will scold you in the newspapers. I am here today to try my best to put you in the spotlight. Death." "I know," McKinley said with a smile, "whatever, you put on this dress, get in this car and warm up, and you'll have a good fight later.", and the reporter has not published an article disparaging McKinley since.

The most powerful thing in the world is not a strong ship and a cannon, but a kind heart, because it can make people feel respect and warmth. People with noble hearts can develop pity and sympathy for others, because friendliness will gradually dispel the hostility of the other party, and no one will refuse the warmth brought by friendliness. So when you're trying to open someone's heart, being nice is the quickest and most effective way.

In life, many people know that each other needs friendly warmth and emotional warmth, but they often use unfounded suspicion to freeze their goodwill behind a hard mask. As long as you can give your love, you will win resonance, make you feel warm, and have unexpected gains. How can you expect kindness in return from others if you have no sincerity towards others and no acts of kindness? Just like a cup of tea in your hand, you use it to warm others today, and in the future, the other party will surely deliver a cup of hot tea to you.