Falling in Love With Someone Else Even Though You're Married

Love is an incredibly complicated emotion. You can never force it, but once it arrives and settles in, you must actively preserve it if you don't want it to leave. If not, love comes and goes, changing you and taking you on a wild ride. Sometimes it's so wild that it ends up leaving you in uncharted territory, with no idea how to proceed.

One of my most recent coaching sessions inspired me to write this article for you today. People can sometimes wind up in very tricky situations with complex emotions, and it can be very hard to determine how exactly to react.

Sometimes people can get caught up in very complicated situations with complex love, and it's hard to determine how exactly to react.

There was someone who was emotionally involved in a situation so complicated, it made him feel completely paralyzed. She doesn't know what decisions to make moving forward, which options to choose, and how to feel confident in her approach.

When you marry your husband or wife, you think that you are in it for the long haul and that the love that exists between you will never be threatened. But fast forward to today and you find yourself with a completely contradictory reality.

You're still married to your partner, but someone comes into your life and triggers really strong feelings of love. For some of you, you may feel like you are falling in love with 2 people at the same time, and others may feel that you no longer feel anything for your partner.

This is a very uncomfortable and challenging situation, and it's not as uncommon as you might think.

The problem is, in our society, we are not given a proper education about love when we are growing up. We are constantly exposed to Hollywood film culture, where everything seems beautiful and rosy for the rest of a couple's life, no matter what.

We aren't really taught about the fact that all relationships will face ups and downs, and love isn't something that will magically survive on its own.

Unfortunately, many people are faced with the painful realization that the love between them and their partner is allowed to fade. Like anything of value, love between two people needs to be nurtured and kept alive.

You are very busy in this and growing old with your work, your responsibilities, but it becomes very easy to neglect your romantic relationships. The result is that many people are taken for granted and if this goes on for too long, the bond between the two people begins to crumble.

When these bonds begin to weaken, the relationship becomes vulnerable to outside factors that could damage it. For example, in many of the situations we often see where two people in a relationship are struggling due to infidelity, the most common cause is abandonment. The fire and attachment between the two people is not nurtured so the person seeking comfort outside the relationship feels like they need something that they are not receiving in the relationship.

Sometimes, when there is a breakdown in a marriage, one of the partners will seek comfort from the other person. Surprisingly, this often happens by accident. The person is not necessarily actively looking for another person to love; it's easier to fall for someone who offers them what they crave in their relationship.

However, the fact that someone may have serious feelings for someone other than their partner does not automatically mean that they have lost feelings for their partner. This is what put them in a very complicated situation, and this is probably what you are facing right now. You can feel paralyzed by the possibility of having to choose one person.

On the one hand, you have the memories and relationships for which, you devoted your time and energy to your husband or wife, and on the other, you have a new person who makes you feel alive again. So when you get married and fall in love with someone else, who do you choose?