Expressions That Speak of Self-Doubt and Make You Look Weak in the Eyes of Others.

If you need to gain the trust of others, you must first trust yourself. And a lot. Only then will you begin to speak and act in such a way that people will perceive you as a confident and convincing person.

You've probably met many people who exude self-confidence. "How do I do it?" You were surprised by them. And the answer is simple: words have helped these people. Our words! They exude confidence. On the other hand, words can make the opposite impression: you can look weak and unconvincing. So never underestimate the power of words.

Here are the expressions you must give up forever:

"I hate to annoy someone, but"

This is an extremely harmful phrase. Forget about it, and prefer it forever. What is certain is that when you say it, you immediately take control of another person (or a group of people) and expose yourself to being weak and undecided. If you're not sure if the other person has enough time to listen to you, just say, "If you have free time, I'd like to talk to you about some issues."

I'm sorry (no reason)

Strong, truly confident people are never afraid to admit their mistakes. Therefore, they always acknowledge this and say, "I'm sorry." But weak people "sculpt" this "Sorry" with or without reason. Usually, because they feel inferior. Often, almost every sentence begins with this sentence.

Think about how many times a day you say this phrase. Now think about whether you should always apologize? In most cases, this was not necessary. Did you do something wrong? Did you offend or hinder someone? Of course not. Therefore, when you are tempted to say "sorry" again, think carefully about whether.

"I'm worried"

Just worry about what has already happened. About real problems, not the scares and scary images created in your head. Indeed, in most cases, all our fears and assumptions are not confirmed.

Do you remember why you were so scared and worried about the last six months? You have to admit that almost all the fears of the theme were unfounded. Then why bother? And even more - to talk about it with others?

"I'll do it alone"

Successful people are not afraid to take responsibility and take action. But they do their job, for which they are responsible. However, he never takes on anything at all - from making coffee to finishing cleaning the room.

If you do this, you immediately show that you are a weak and disrespectful person. Be a team player, but don't jump every time you have to do something or fix something. Everyone has to stand at their own "gate".

"But …"

Each time you utter this expression, you immediately express the importance and significance of what is said.

If you have a suggestion, an idea, or a concern, declare it with confidence and do not reduce it to something unimportant and unworthy of attention.

"If you don't mind, you could…"

Whenever you ask permission to ask for something, you immediately send a signal that your request is not so important. By the way, this immediately implies that a person can think or say, "No, I can't."

If your request is reasonable, then do so with authority and trust, even if you are talking to your boss. Don't use a beggar's tone so as not to think that you are begging for help. Just start with the words, "When you have a minute, please."

"I believe/feel this…"

These completely useless and harmful phrases simply indicate your insecurity and that you have no control over the situation. Like the word "only."

After all, these words, like nothing else, only diminish the importance of your statement.